A healthy mind body connection is the key to the quality of your life and will reflect in your relationships.
In love relationships, sex represents passion and passion represents the expression of our inner spirituality. Passion leads to rapture and rapture leads to "God" - or an elevated conscious mind-body experience.
The health of your mind is pivotal to the health of your body. As such, it will also be pivotal to your physical relationships. Sex and spirituality are enmeshed.
Listen as Deepak Chopra discusses the two:
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Hello Nadja, love the new site! Deepak's the man!
Hi MOA,
I am having some serious problems in the sex department. My boyfriend of 4 years and I have sex once or twice a week and it is not very good. We have had trust issues in the past where he has lied to me about things and it has made me have less respect for him and trust, of course. Things are "ok" right now. I mean he is a super kind, caring, handsome man who would pretty much do anything for anyone. He tells me he loves me constantly and is always trying to love on me. And we get along really well, 99% of the time. However, since finding out a few months ago that he was lying to me about some stuff, I now have ZERO desire to have sex with him and every time we do have sex I just feel angry. When he kisses me in the process, I feel myself turning my head away from him cuz I don't want to makeout or kiss him intimately. When we are having sex, In my head I hear a little voice saying "I hate you" (to him) and I find myself wishing I could punch him in the face (which I would never do, of course). That's just how angry I feel inside.
Even though I have tried to forgive him for the hurt he has caused me in the past, and the lies, I have never actually gotten ANGRY with him and yelled and screamed and let it all out, so a part of me, in retrospect, feels like its still all inside me and when we are being intimate I am sooo angry inside.
I don't know what this all means or if I'm on the right track as far as trying to figure it out. Obviously, I don't want to behave that way or feel those feelings, but I'm not sure how to fix it. And not even sure if I can fix it, or if my heart is telling me that this relationship is over.
feeling so confused, thanks for listening.
hi MOA,
i know you are so busy, but i am hoping you can write me back soon. I will check every day. Thanks again :)
@Anonymous,
What's your specific question dear?
i just feel lost in all this and don't understand why it is happening? is this normal? is it crazy? I just don't understand what it means to feel that way? I don't feel all angry and stuff during the normal day when we are around each other, just when we are being intimate? I'm just trying to get some insight if you have any. you have helped me before so much. thanks.
@Anonymous,
I always advise that - when your gut is speaking to you dear - listen to it. Do not ignore it, it's trying to tell you something. He's betrayed you. Lies are a betrayal. And when that happens, it changes the way we feel. He's disappointed you and broken your trust. So yes, it's normal to have your attractions decrease when trust has been broken and betrayals take place.
So my suggestion would be to examine your relationship closely - and decide whether or not this man is truly capable of making you happy and fulfilling your needs. Because I think right now, your gut is trying to tell you that he's not capable of those things. And if that's the case, sometimes it's hard dear, but there are times in life when we have to walk away from things we care about and love - for OUR OWN good.
Being around someone that's making you feel bad and that's causing you anxiety or making you experience negativity...is not good for you dear. So think about whether or not it's time to maybe take some space away from him. If you do that and you miss him, then it's possible that with some space and time to work through your emotions, you can possibly repair this afterwards. And if not, then do what's best for you dear. It's not easy, but then again, the best things in life never come easy.
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