Experiences With A Taurus Male

Taurus males. . .smoldering, sexy and attentive. But can it really be that good? Well, based on my personal experiences of 13 years spent with a Taurus man, I can say yes - and no. I guess it just depends on how "progressed" your Taurus male is and how submissive he may be to the stimulation of his five senses.

So before I begin, I'd like to state that there are many, many Taurus men out there that are wonderful husbands, lovers and friends. That being said, I'm sure that you are now guessing where I'm headed with this. . Yep - I'm delving into the "dark side" of the Taurus mans nature as many of my personal observations over the years centered around such activity. So my apologies to all you wonderful Taurus males out there.

Taurus folks, as many already know, are all about the stimulation of the five senses. When these stimulations are of a positive nature, they love music, good food, the outdoors, sensitive touch and all things sensually related.

However, Should A Taurus Fall Prey To The Stimulation Of Darker Senses

Lookout!

It's a folly of gluttony, abuse and self indulgence. Taurus males, in particular, can become steeped in drugs, alcohol, casual sex, gambling and the like. He may cultivate relationships, both sexual and platonic, outside of a committed relationship as a Plan B of sorts.

Taurus men are passive by nature and, being ruled by the planet Venus, that of love, romance and money, have a natural tendency to draw people to them rather than seeking people and relationships out. Taurus is all about security, I should know - I AM one.

Nothing pleases a Taurus, male or female, more than stability, a cushy living situation, and security, both financial and emotional. Due to that nature, a Taurus man generally will not act aggressively towards people or situations that secretly they wish to attach themselves to.

Rather, a Taurus man will somehow manage to draw those people or relationships to him. And our Taurus males, in particular, are very good at doing so.
Sextrology refers to the Taurus males motto being one of "I WILL". . . .have you in the palm of my hand.

And For Taurus Men, That's It In A Nutshell

Strong yet quiet, masculine yet sensitive, sexual yet unaggressive, these guys have mastered the technique. And once he's caved to stimulation of his darker senses this becomes one of his favorite pastimes. He'll spend many a day and hours of time cultivating "situations" that he will ultimately reap rewards from at a later date. Thus making all his time and effort worth it.

A Taurus man will place himself into environments where these situations are more likely to happen and he'll simply sit back and wait. He'll show up time and time again and do this repeatedly until he finally achieves the rapport he's been attempting to build. All the while, he'll be acting coy and clueless in an attempt to disarm you of any agenda you may think he has.

You see, for our Taurus male, that IS his agenda. . . .to disarm you (especially women) and make you think he has no agenda. He wants you to relax and feel comfortable around him, not threatened. And in order to do this he realizes that he must repeatedly make his presence known time and time again so that those around him drop their guard.

And once your comfortable and your walls are down, that's when the real work begins. His plan is now in motion and it'll brew at such a slow and steady pace that you'll be none-the-wiser.

Here's a Tidbit of Insight Into Your Taurus Man

He operates behind the scenes, always keeping his intentions guarded and others in a constant state of guessing. He is a man of reaction - not one of action. He forces others to play their hand before revealing his own, all the while, he's working his angle behind the scenes.

By doing so, our Taurus man leads a rather stress-free life. He hangs back in situations, being the master of all he surveys. This ones like a kid in the candy store of life. A huge appetite for pleasure, but lacking the inability to exert abstinence or self-discipline, he's all about the stimulation of the five senses. A come hither kind of guy. His lifelong goal is to be idolized, idolized, idolized - and worshipped by others.

Therefore, Taurus men play a rather submissive role in life and in relationships. If you ask a Taurus man where he'd like to go for dinner that night, most likely, his response will be, "Wherever you'd like to go." He's not much of a decision maker and, honestly, doesn't prefer to wear the pants in a love relationship. This behavior gets Taurus men farther in life and without much effort having to be placed into it. He finds that he usually doesn't have to fight for that which he wants. He waits, he watches, he evaluates. He's a strategist.

Once his goals are securable and within his reach - he charges straight for them. He's not a risk taker by nature. He plans and plots, waiting for his desires to ultimately reveal themselves to him. Our Taurus male tends to build his own small harem of worshippers in life. He may pal around with younger individuals that look up to him in some way.

He may develop a harem of female admirers on the side, of whom he will always refer to as only "friends. A dating pool of sorts, from which he can pull from at his leisure, if need be, or if his preferred stable relationship should happen to sour in his eyes.

And by souring, I mean - if you stop worshipping him and the idol that he envisions himself to be. So ladies, if you find yourself involved with, or gunning for, a Taurus male you may find one of the nicest, most attentive and sexual guys on the planet - or you might find yourself trapped in a sea of confusion and self doubt.

When dealing with a Taurus man it might pay to ask questions and study body language. Most important of all. . . .find out where's he's spending most of his time. That will give you a glimpse into his motives and the situations that he's attempting to attach himself to.

I'd like to hear from women who have had experiences with Taurus men. Where they positive or negative? Can you relate to any of this?

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Sad Cancer said...: Thank you Anonymous. Yes your right. I gotta get out. He did the disappearing act on me and he force me to contact him first by ignoring me. I had to do it first. He is a "come hither" kind of guy. He reappeared and he saw me and started staring at me. I was trying to move on with my life but he is trying to pull me in. I even have dreams about him, and I can't control them, and yes he does has his harem of women around him. I hate having feelings for him. I wanna move on. I should of done this earlier buy he might be looking at my facebook page everyday. I don't know if Taurus men look at the womens FB page but I wouldn't be surprise if they did.; November 8, 2012 at 8:47 AM
Anonymous said...: Hello, I'm Scorpio and married and have a "different" relationship with a Taurus married man. I really would love some advice. First I really learned a lot about Taurus on this site. Thank you! Ok so we have mostly a texting relationship. We have been texting every week day for 8 months and we have hot text exchanges and the connection feels strong! He doesn't talk much about his feelings but his actions shows he cares. We haven't had sex but fooled around multiple times. I want to go out and hang with him but he is So worried about screwing things up in his life as his kids are a huge factor for him. He has a side job that he got me working in although it's not often I work. So he's getting me in his life to see me but I'm very intuitive and he really struggles with his feelings and what he does about them. I really like this guy and feel we have an attachment and I've been super patient. He's made some progress in some aspects but I want more of a normal relationship well as normal as you can have when your both married.. Please help in figuring out this guy being a Taurus and advice is welcome :); November 9, 2012 at 11:06 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Thank you for contributing your story here. My only advice would be - be kind to others and be fair to your spouses. If you're unhappy in your marriages, leave your spouses so they can find happiness with someone who actually appreciates them and loves them.

Two things to remember:

1) If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat on you.
2) Karma

Much luck to you and again, thank you for contributing here.; November 9, 2012 at 5:55 PM
Anonymous said...: Hmm yeah you are right...its depend on their childhood experience...; November 16, 2012 at 10:27 PM
Anonymous said...: Lol.... Really.. Coz my sign Taurus.... Hahahah; November 16, 2012 at 10:34 PM
Sad Cancer said...: Hey Mirror,

Can I interview you about this article?; November 18, 2012 at 2:23 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Sad Cancer,
What type of interview? Can you provide details?

Use the "Contact" form at the top of the site, above the logo and contact me directly.

Thanks!; November 18, 2012 at 6:12 PM
soulsoprano said...: I am a Virgo woman who just moved in with a Taurus male a month ago.He used to lurk viewing my profile on a dating site, but he would never leave me a message, just look.One day I became curious enough ton ask him why he hadn't messaged me,and from that moment,It was like I was a little fly caught in a spider's web!I am not in love with this Taurean man.I recently came to the end of a very intense relationship that left me reeling emotionally, financially.The Taurus man in question swooped in and "fixed" everything, drained (supposedly) his bank accounts to pay off my debts and provide me with moving expenses.(I say supposedly because even though he claims to always be at the end of his funds,if there is some unexpected need, he suddenly and magically finds the money to take care of it.I am certain he is less than forward about his personal finances, but he really doesn't have money, just alot of credit, as evidenced by the mountain of bills and statements around the house.He is exactly as you describe.He claims masterhood over all things in the house, especially anything involving money, even though I have my own job and make my own (albeit small) paycheck. Once, before I had a job and he was still helping me, I needed feminine products. He drove me to the store and CAME INSIDE with me, and then pointing to the bargain ones! I was horrified, but I couldn't do anything about it. I did lament a little about preferring to get them on my own, and his response was, "Do you have money?" It was like he was getting off on the power trip of embarassing me. Very cruel streak. Hard to pinpoint.In contrast, however, he is submissive in certain ways. If I complain about something he usually gives in, but often with this whiny tone he uses that irritates the hell out of me, like it's so much effort to bend and let me have my way.He also does have an entourage of women he calls "friends", but he has very personal conversations with them.He says he is one of the few men who understands them, which is why they seek him out (again, just like your post...women seek his company, not the other way around!)The most interesting thing is that I'm not even physically attracted to this man. He is skinny, but with the middle aged gut, no muscle tone, and has several health issues that make him inept at home improvement tasks.However, despite this, in the bedroom he has a very persuasive nature that draws me to him sexually, even though by day when he is at work I think of him on top of me and I shudder. He seems to be naturally in tune to what turns me on, though we have really only just met. My biggest pet peeve with this Taurus is that, as a nursing student and professional caregiver, I am a germaphobe.I am fastidious about dirt and germs, and his house was nearly uninhabitable when I moved in.It has taken me a solid month of deep cleaning so far.Nothing wasn't filthy.He has dogs who pee and poo all over the house,and I have only just now gotten him to try to train them. He is a hoarder.He had pieces of computers and similar things, some of them from 20+ years ago.I cried from depression the first two weeks I lived here. I had managed to clean the bedroom to a satisfactory condition, and that is where I lived all day, with the TV on, escaping the horor just outise the door. I also notice that my Taurus contradicts himself regularly, but when confronted with the truth, he often evades it by stating that I must have misheard him.Unfortunately for now, I will have to stick it out here and play this game for a while until I save up enough money to find my own place again. Until then, I consider this post to be an accurate warning. Thanks for the heads up!

TS; November 20, 2012 at 8:50 AM
Anonymous said...: @tirokosoul. really? you need to woman up- get a job that pays the bills and be independent and not rely on a man to foot your bills, especially one you claim you have no interest in!

The issue is with you-not him. Your fucking him but go to work and shudder at the thought? And then you moved in with him? So you're prostituting yourself until you save up enough money to find your own place?!; November 23, 2012 at 5:48 PM
wise owl said...: my TAURUS MALE and I(SCORPIO)were together 10 yrs and now friends the last 2 yrs- he is always popping around always helping- he didnt go near another woman until I started dating. He still cares for me and I think he always will. And the reason we broke up? well he was just so bloody lazy- dont get me wrong he would do anything I asked- and was strong as an ox which I was very attracted to, and could work hard- no I mean...lazy in attitude. Too lazy to attend to the tinea on his toes, too lazy too finish his bathroom renos for 4 years, too lazy to organise any sort of date or holiday for us- I did it all. And now we are still friends...he is now 66 and getting to be an old bull..for brief periods he pops around and helps me with some job around the house, which I do appreciate. Recently he was helping me with something and I said, I think I will quit now... "yes good idea he said, "put off for tomorrow what you dont want to do today", he then downed tools and took off home!!! TYPICAL ATTITUDE OF A TAUREAN MALE; November 24, 2012 at 8:38 AM
Anonymous said...: This is odd how it seems to be an accurate description of a person born under the "Taurus" sign.
The quote-
"if you find yourself involved with, or gunning for, a Taurus male you may find one of the nicest, most attentive and sexual guys on the planet - or you might find yourself trapped in a sea of confusion and self doubt."

I'm an Aquarius and have dated a Taurus for almost 4 years. The first almost 3 years were like the confusion and self doubt for me-I was happy yet miserable, but after being away from each other for 5 months last year, it all changed and he said he grew up and since a year ago he's been like one of the nicest most attentive guys I've ever met. They really can change to be some of the best people ever.; November 24, 2012 at 2:52 PM
Unknown said...: Aries female here, madly in love with a Taurus male, *sigh* but he's a jackass, and I won't put up with his crap for one minute! We'll see "who's" eating out of "who's" hands by New Years':); November 28, 2012 at 5:24 AM
Anonymous said...: Taurus male here. I think this is a totally fair warning about Taurus', but most of what I've read about people's bad experiences with their mate is not so much a bad Taurus as it is a bad person. Anyone can be given over to the extremes of the personality and cause pain. I'm in a relationship with a Leo right now who is evidence of that. Her Leo emotions rule every bit of her and it's totally unhealthy.

I want to address a few Taurus characteristics specifically, because I think it will be helpful to understand them from our perspective. I also think that once you understand them, you'll also understand what that mysterious pull is you feel when you think about your Taurus. You'll also likely never get your Taurus to admit this, because these are the secrets and vulnerabilities we keep to ourselves, but since I'm anonymous, I'm happy to share! :)

First, the games we play. To call them games makes them sound sinister, and I suppose if you're dealing with a Darkside Taurus maybe they are, but for the rest of us, they stem from our totally vulnerable center and fear of rejection. Everyone knows about our infamous tempers, and we're just as much afraid of it as you are. We also know that nothing sets it off like rejection, criticism, and worst of all, betrayal. Once our temper is unleashed, it's the proverbial bull in a china shop, uncontrollably destroying the things we love. So we play "games" and test the waters, and we politely ask that you notice and affirm our interests in you. If you're comfortable with overt displays of affection and show yourself trustworthy, your good Taurus will not play games long. I think it's funny that people have so many experiences with Taurus' who won't commit or are slow to come around, because I spend most of my time analyzing whether I'm moving too fast for my love interest. That's why the overt displays are important and it's what hooked me about my Leo girl. You don't get much more overt than that.

Secondly, the "harem". Again, I'd put it down to our insecurities. It's also easily counter-acted by a partner who builds us up naturally. And I don't mean one who walks around complimenting us all the time. We're pretty good at knowing whether you admire us or not. And it should be "admire" and not "idolize." Any person who wants to be idolized (and presumably doesn't deserve it) is simply not a healthy person. The sign they're born under is inconsequential. Your Taurus male SHOULD have a natural desire to protect you and provide for you, and if you'll just remember to show appreciation for that, he won't need a Plan B. If you feel like you do that and your Taurus still won't devote himself to you, kick him to the curb, because you've got a bad man.

All told, I totally agree with the article, except that I'd put a more general point on the negatives and just say those are examples of a bad or unhealthy person. A Taurus at his best will be everything strong and "manly", the thick-skinned, immovable beast standing between the world and the people he loves. Show some appreciation for that, and he'll let you be the thing that moves him, his only vulnerability.; November 28, 2012 at 11:17 AM
Anonymous said...: I just got out of a relationship with THE most selfish, cold-hearted, manipulative man I have ever met, and he is a Taurus. So cunning, so smooth, knows all the right buttons to push with a woman to get what he wants which is sex. It's so sad that a 44 year-old man (boy) moved back in with his parents for the last five years after his second marriage failed. Then he moved to North Carolina from Texas to "change" his life. Probably moved here to avoid the scorn and revenge of women he has screwed over physically and emotionally. He cheated on both ex-wives and most all the girlfriends he has ever had. I am educated, mature and wise to most men's games, but this one was good at his game. I will run like hell from the next Taurus man I meet. They act like they are so sweet and sincere but they are wolves in sheep's clothing. I just hope I am around to see the universe (Karma) pay him back for the way he treated me and all the other women that have had the misfortune to know him.; November 28, 2012 at 9:26 PM
meisie said...: mercy
Good day Mirrior ,it the first time on you site but i have learned so much from it that after reading this i deleted all his messages,pictures and contact numbers form my phone and pc.I met my taurus guy in september at a wedding and didnt like him at first.later on the same day i started liking him when we initially started talking.he took me out on a first date in durban that was amazing no1 has ever did that to me everything was fine.Two weeks in our relation,he introduced me to his family and they know me now.And now after four months of dating i feel he is loosing interests he hardly calls,text or email.Everytime when i have to see him he wants to prostpone to the next week and never phones or text that he misses me at all.when we together he tell me how much he loves me and how he is going to make me his wife one day,i believed all that and i started being there for him 100% because i then thought he ws the one.now the last time we were together and had to be intimate he told me how tired he is and how much he tries to make me happy sexually and he knows i know.I got so pissed at him and i also felt that he was not attacted to me sexually at all.so now its been five days no call no sms.I called him yesterday and he told me he was sick and that our relationship is fine no problems at all....

what can i do; November 30, 2012 at 5:03 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Meisie,
You have no choice, you go on, that's what you do. You live your life, go out with your friends, go shopping - you go on.

There's no magic wand that can be waved to make someone love you or to make them want to be in a relationship with you. If he genuinely cares for you, he'll come seek you out. If he doesn't, then you have your answer.

But you don't call him or stalk him or chase him and pursue him. You'll drive him away doing that.

You go on about you life and you wait for him to contact you. If he doesn't do that within 30 days - you start to date other men and move on.; November 30, 2012 at 7:39 AM
Sad Cancer said...: My question to Mirror or anyone else is, if a Taurus wants a committed relationship, will his "Harem" get upset with him? How would his worshipers feel if he dated one woman? If the woman left cause she found out about his "Harem" will he work "behind the scenes" to get her back?; December 2, 2012 at 1:04 PM
Just Wondering said...: And to add to what "Sad Cancer" said about his "Harem", does he want to make other women he likes jealous? What would make him give up his "Harem"? and will his "Harem" be mad at him that he choose one woman over them. Thanks.; December 3, 2012 at 3:26 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: Those questions cannot be answered because they depend on the individuals involved. Everyone has "free will." So to predict an individuals reaction really isn't possible. It'd only be speculation.

If it's an insecure Taurus male, sure he'd like to make them jealous. If it's a confident one, he wouldn't care. I imagine meeting the right woman would make him give up his harem and I have no way of knowing if any of the women would be made at him or not, seen as how I don't know the women involved.; December 3, 2012 at 5:21 PM
Anonymous said...: Is there a chance a Taurus man will stalk a woman's facebook page even if there no friends on it? I don't know if he is looking at my page cause I know Taurus are so secretive. They say if your looking at his page then most likely he is doing the same. Yes I do it but I'm trying to stop.; December 5, 2012 at 7:03 PM
Anonymous said...: I'm an aquarius female in head over heels with a Taurus man. He's exactly how you explained above except I am terrified of him having any affairs with other women. EEEEK. I also don't want to accuse him of any cheating... hmmm; December 6, 2012 at 3:16 PM
Anonymous said...: I met a Taurus guy in September, the connection was unbelievable, sex, everything. First guy who wasn't intimidated by me. I'm a Capricorn. confident and men find me attractive, which causes them to submit to me (not attractive!) Which is quite ironic, considering that I basically became a puppet in this guy's hands.

At the beginning I knew he liked me more than he anticipated. After a very short time of seeing each other, he actually told me he liked me a lot, and I knew he was honest.

Then, of course, he started to pull away (second month), which is exactly when I became completely insecure. I lost my ground. He contacted me less, and so by early November my ego said "enough!" and sent him an angry text. He called me back and told me he couldn't do this, doesn't have time for dealing this.

I recuperated quite quickly (doesn't mean I lost feelings for him; no. I just did the Capricorn thing and re-grouped. I didn't contact him at all from that day knowing that it would just be to my disadvantage. I thought about him every day, but was prepared to having to get over him completely (but I honestly see him as my husband).

Anyways, he called me yesterday. I answered and was just being me, back to my normal, laid back self. He asked me if I ... missed the sex (much more explicitly lol) and even though I laughed it off, my mind was going "WHAT??" Then I received a phone call later, saying that he was just off of work, and that he would come over. I was offended (as much as I wanted to see him lol), and said that I'd pass. Then I asked what he wanted from me because if this was a booty call then he may as well call someone else.

He said the wanted to get together, like two grown ups (lol!), and if we find ourselves on the same plate (like we were before), and things work out, we'll be dating again. I honestly didn't know what to think of this, beside thinking that this was really low of him, if he was trying to trick me into giving it out by promising me a relationship. I don't play games, I'm straightforward (I guess I need to stop to be), and I thought ok, dude, are you that horny? And you think I'm going to fall for it? HELL, NO.

I said that it seems kind of backwards to me, and maybe we should start over by dating if he wants to see where things will go. He asked me to call him the next day (I said no; if he wants he can call me). He did call me today, we spoke briefly. I've been very guarded, of course, because I will protect myself at all cost. I do want to have a relationship with him, but ONLY if I can be his absolute priority. I realize I may have blown things a little at the very beginning by having my temporary brain freeze and not controlling my emotions, but I ask - can this still be fixed?

When he called me today, he asked to shoot him a text while he was at work, which I did. I wasn't going to, but I was reading the threads and men T said that they want to see if we're still interested. I don't know if this was a good idea (he didn't respond). And so I really don't know how to play this whole thing out. Again, I see tremendous potential in this relationship, but I know that it may need a lot of work in order to break off this shield (I'm shielded, too). He may as well just want to see if I'm another possibility for him to get laid, for all I know, and if that's the case, I'd like to ask male Taurus for some pointers. I read that without sex you have no connection (I understand), but I can't just jump into bed with him HOPING he'll rekindle his feelings for me - if he had any to begin with. What should I do? Thanks in advance.; December 7, 2012 at 2:05 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Dec. 7, 2:05AM,
I'm not a Taurus male, but I am a Taurus female and I'm going to jump in here. Any Taurus men, feel free to provide your point of view as well.

I had to jump in here though to say - what he did, the way he went about this - is totally disrespectful. I think he wanted to see if he could get you to "jump" for him. Which you did. He disappeared on you and the minute he rang you - boom, you were there. So he got confident, thinking, "Ok, we can pick up right where we left off." Not good.

Then to boot, to make matters (and him) look worse, he IMMEDIATELY starts with the games. Telling you to call HIM, telling you to text HIM. He wants to see you jump, honey.

And when you did, when you sent that text - he ignorantly doesn't respond. Typical behavior from a player. Stroking his ego, seeing if he can get a girl to "chase" him. So that he can have control and this can go his way.

I'd be very careful with this one. Because I'm sensing he's about to take you for a ride.; December 7, 2012 at 8:54 AM
Anonymous said...: I am a taurus female. I have dated a couple taurus males and they were the sweetest, most awesome guys ever! it was me that kinda messed thing up a bit but this was back in high school.. I am now (and have been for quite some time) pursuing another taurus male who drives me nuts. he claims to have "intimacy issues" but runs me in circles and I feel like a chicken with me head cut off. I know he means well and isn't doing this because of some other girls or whatever the "dark side" of taurus men would be doing this for. he's just not that kinda guy. I legitimately think he is terrified of relationships. is this a common personality trait for a taurus male?; December 8, 2012 at 4:28 AM
Anonymous said...: I'm a virgo female. I got attracted to a taurus man. And I did feel that I am in his "dating pool of sorts". I confirmed with myself after he told me that he's now seeing a lady he likes. So I decided to move on and stay distance from him.
A group of us went to lunch the other day. He said to everybody at table that he wanted me to sit close to him. I denied his request, in a joking way. Then he came to stand behind me a while without saying or doing anything. I pretended not seeing him by continuing my conversation with other people. After he went back to his seat, he asked the guy (NOT ME) beside me to pass my cell to him. The guy did. Some other people got shocked by seeing this. In order not to ruin the good atmosphere at the table, I said to other people it's okay since the phone is locked by password. He kept trying for a long time before he returned my phone to me. After lunch, he even asked me in front of some other people that why I don't like him anymore. I felt really uncomfortable with him doing this to me; I am afraid that other people may think there is something going on between us. I especially don't want his behavior blocking other more sincere guys from approaching me. What can I do?; December 9, 2012 at 2:39 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Virgo Female,
You avoid this one. And if you find yourself in situations where he's at, you ignore him, as you've done.

As far as I'm concerned, he made himself look insecure and controlling by attempting to go through your phone like that. And I imagine that everyone else there thinks he's an ass.

And next time he pulls that, you DON'T permit it. You don't let him push you around like that. You embarrass him in front of the others by telling him that it's not okay, that you do not permit that and that he should be more confident in himself and not so insecure.

You say all of those things if he attempts that again - and you embarrass him in front of everyone.

You are not his property - nor is your phone. Do not permit him to act as if you are.; December 9, 2012 at 9:15 AM
Anonymous said...: Thanks a lot, The Mirror of Aphrodite!
One more thing, sometimes, if there were only me and another good friend with him, he showed us the text messages from the lady he's seeing. Although I know that he's an xxx...but I still need some time to completely to pull myself away from him. I've tried very hard in the past a few times to pretend I don't care and gave advice as requested. I am thinking to avoid hanging out with the group for a while, but worry that what he could say behind me, asking people why I don't like him anymore, why I don't wanna be on his side anymore when playing games (to be honest, we didn't never always play on the same side; and most of the time, it was him who came to my side), or even showing them messages we exchanged before.
I don't know what other guys do; I used to think messages you receive or send are quite private, especially between two seeing or dating. How can you show them to others? Am I wrong?; December 9, 2012 at 10:42 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi I am a gemini female and I was dating a taurus male!! He doesn't yet knw its over but he soon will. This relationship has bevome too much and he cheated most of our relationship which was 4 years but I'm done being the dumm he can find another I have been nothing but good and relized I was losing myself trying to make him happy and for wat shit he ain't tried o make me happy all of this is correct my tauris is a hoe butbi can't speak for all taurus males everyone is different and it depends on how they were brought up and their morales I'm done with relationships god will bring my mste when he wants me to have one!!! Single and only mingling wit god!!!!!!!d; December 10, 2012 at 2:57 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Dec. 9, 10:42PM,
Oh no, men SHOW those text messages to EVERYONE that will look, LOL. That's why women should NEVER send explicit photos, texts and images. Men love nothing more than to show other men that there are women out there that want them.

It increases their "stock" with other men and women, too. I had a guy tell me that once. He said, "If I can get a girl like you to date me, you'd increase my stock." Meaning, with other women. And that's what he's using those messages from that other woman to do with YOU. He thinks that by showing you that another female wants him - this will make you jealous and you'll want him, too. Men also think that women will compete for them by doing that as well.

But it never fails, the men that feel a desperate need to do that, to emotionally manipulate women and pit them against one another - are extremely insecure about themselves.

They have to play games to get a woman's attention because they don't feel they can do that just by being themselves.; December 10, 2012 at 9:00 AM
Anonymous said...: I am an Aquarius female dating a Taurus male, and I can say that everything in the above article is true. At first sight he and I could not stop staring at each other, and even though I was in a relationship at the time, his magnetism and angelic face made me crazy until I finally made a move. After a month of talking we were together. we broke up a couple times due to some issues with him disappearing and playing games. After three years of this he finally decided he wanted me for real, finally introduced me to his parents and made our relationship official. Taurus men are enigmatic, charming, sexy, and loving, and if you give them encouragement, praise and devotion, they reward you with the most intense love making and emotional security you could ever dream of.

These men are sensitive and therefore protective of themselves, so you better decide from the beginning that you are willing to prove yourself. it took me three years of saying, "I love you, I will always be there for you", for my Taurus to believe me. But when they do, they give all of themselves, and it is soo worth it. i couldn't be happier, and i honestly hope i marry this guy one day.

-Julia; December 10, 2012 at 10:55 AM
Anonymous said...: Quick question, when a Taurus shows you attention then suddenly without warning disappears and you start "chasing" him, does that mean you're part of his "harem" or "Plan B"? If he ask you to "Call" him does that mean he wants you under his spell? Thanks; December 10, 2012 at 10:42 PM
Anonymous said...: I guess I have to stay tough with myself now, in order not to get emotionally manipulated by the Taurus guy. Man, giving advice to the guy you're into to get another woman is really hard. But I have to believe I can do it!
Going through all the messages here, is there a good Taurus man?
It says virgo women and taurus men are perfect match; but not what I've seen and experienced...

Virgo Female; December 11, 2012 at 12:41 AM
Anonymous said...: I totally agree with the writer about a Taurus man. they are definitely players and always have a "harem" to pick from. My Taurus is over 50 and now and settled. But I was with him for many years. Knowing where they hang or spend most of their time (very important). Mine was unfortuntely the bar. And he was very good at keeping me on the side. I would hear tales of how he would always tell women rather casually he had no girlfriend- he was leaving me - he was unattached. It's like he's was always making sure he had something to fall back on in case I did actually drop his two-timing ass. Luckily, that has all changed. I think this is more prevalent in young, single Taurus men. Once they decide to settle down and they KNOW you are aware of what they did - they become very attentive, loyal companions. And in reality, that's what we all are truly looking for in the end - a lover and a FRIEND.; December 12, 2012 at 4:13 PM
Anonymous said...: I am a Taurus female, but I can't vouch for the earthy Taureans out there (my Sun sign and only Earth sign in my whole chart, so not even going to go there), some of the things said in the article and in some of the posts, mainly the negative ones seem to be some of the reasons I have never ever been attracted to a Taurus, honestly with a few exceptions here and there I find most Earth signs an absolute bore encapsulated by rigidity and monotony (they might be able to do many things or have many interests, but every time I had suggested something unconventional spur of the moment the typical response would be "uh ah ... uh ... let's hang out at my house and watch a movie" in my book if you can't participate in spontaneity or much less offer some ... you're out). I started noticing by my 20's that I had barely any Earth sign acquaintances, much less friends. About 9 out of 10 of my friends were and are Air signs. I had flings with Earth signs more than becoming friends with them or having relationships with. Out of those Earth signs Taurus lasted the least ... maybe a month at most if I was in a lazy transition phase. Once I saw their routines it would be the end of that, for the sake of me avoiding feeling stifled and for the sake of their sanity. One thing I have always gotten as a description from them and even Capricorns "I just can't figure you out". Strange, lol every Aquarian and Libran friend have said the opposite even from early on. So far my experience has been: it is ALL about their pace all the time (which is mind numbing SLOW), comfort, and leisure. I only had one relationship (out of 13) with an Earth sign and he was a Virgo, great boyfriend half the time and sincerely the strangest most feminine. Biggest love of all was a Sagittarius with Moon in Taurus which also later turned into the most problematic one of all (just would not let us part ways and still 2 yrs after the relationship has ended has still not let me go or let me be). Then again I have my Venus in Aries and a Moon in Scorpio ... I think that sums up a lot of my problems there :/.; December 13, 2012 at 12:47 AM
Anonymous said...: My taurus boyfriend won't marry me. We've been together for 4 years and have 2 kids together but he won't ask me to marry him. I told him many times I would like it, but he does not want to. Why?; December 16, 2012 at 4:02 PM
Anonymous said...: Wow! this is downright true to experience almost everything that I read on this article to the man that I am currently involved with. Thank you so much, this is an enlightenment. I should better get rid of him for good!; December 18, 2012 at 8:10 AM
Anonymous said...: Im a Taurus and I started seeing a taurus male in june 2012. We worked together and he asked me out to dinner a couple of times but I always said no. One day he suprised me with roses on my car @ worked and we finally exchanged numbers. Our first night seeing eachother outside of work was in my car at his house where we just chatted for an hour or so, and he revealed some deep secrets to me. I was suprised since we barely knew eachother.. The next day which was a Friday we went to dinner and a movie. He was so sweet. A week went by and we exchanged texts and hung out a bit and he already started talking about me and him moving into an Apartment together or me moving away with him, but I was overwhelmed because of how fast he was going and I just ended a longterm relationship. He was sort of pressuring me. So one night he text me "if ive ever had an involvement with a mutual Friend" and I told him the truth. He went into jealous mode and called me a liar. But I was involved with the mutual person at least 1 1/2-2 years before I even met him. So I didnt feel like it was even necessary to bring up. Especially after seeing the Taurus male for only 2 weeks. We went out to eat to speak about things and told me that he has trust issues because his ex wife cheated on him. And that I need to earn his trust. Its been 6 months since this happend and he only texts me late nights like once every other week. Problem is, I really care about him. And feel a connection, but he barely gives us time. And he has a 2 yr old daughter too. Help me please anyone...; December 19, 2012 at 2:27 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
There's nothing you can do here, this isn't your fault or your choice, it's his. And you can't make someone love you or want a relationship with you. And quite honestly, he isn't ready for one. He has issues. And he's already admitted them to you, and HIS issues (trust) have already caused problems.

It's absurd for a man to think that he's entitled to know every little thing about a woman's past after only a few dates. It's none of his business and when the time is right, when the two people fall in love or decide to become exclusive, that's when they're entitled to that information. Otherwise, that's your private life and he has no business feeling entitled to know about it.

He projected his trust issues onto you. He treated you as if you were his ex wife who had wronged him. You're not his ex wife, you've done nothing wrong, and HE has wronged YOU here.

If he had asked you about this and you'd have lied to him, then yes, that's wrong. But when he asked, you told the truth. I see absolutely no wrong doing here on your part at all.

I mean . . what are you supposed to do? Blurt out, "Oh hey, by the way, I slept with this guy we both know." Or, "Oh hey, by the way, I've slept with 7 men previous to you, let me run down the list for you."

What the hell? Who does that? And why would anyone do that? It's ridiculous, LOL. And it's ridiculous for him to expect a woman to do that after a few damn dates. Is he blurting out every woman he's slept with? Is he being transparent about that with you? Did he run down the long list of his previous lovers and divulge them to you during dinner?

NO. Because who does that? NO ONE.

He's an extremely insecure guy, honey. And insecure men are effed up. They don't make good boyfriends or husbands. They're extremely jealous, their jealousy constantly causes problems, they're constantly angry and suspicious, they spy and pry and sneak into your phone, they make accusations based on nothing but fear - they're very difficult to love and they have a hard time loving someone back.

I think he's emotionally unavailable.; December 19, 2012 at 7:39 AM
Anonymous said...: im a pisces woman been friends with a taurus male for over two yrs now. I know he has alot on his plate rite now that may be the reason we not b/g friends . Well i did the n/c on him and man when i did contact him again he knew just how many days it was and was mad with me for not contacting him but in the hole thirty days he never contacted me . So why this madness we not a couple ? he do tell me alot of things he wouldn't tell other ppl about his life and all . We both have exs but neither of us have other ppl. he do make time to see me if i say i haven't seen you. i belive that he is scared that i my leave him because some times he gets distant and off to himself. i do understand cuz hurt do take time . we both been divoiced almost 7 yrs funny huh . well we both said we love each other but im not sure he say no one has ever looked out for him like i have and he loves me for it so moa if its love why be mad if i dont contact him???; December 20, 2012 at 12:15 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Dec. 20, 12:15AM,
LOL, he's mad because he's insecure. He thought he was being dumped and it gave him a good scare. But that's what it's supposed to do, to shock them into realizing - they actually DO care.

But this one's insecure and that adds some additional elements to the mix. Insecure men aren't big "givers" - they're takers and they'll sap your energy and fill your life with negativity. Many times, they're not happy and they're depressed. This can rub off on you and it also affects the relationship.

Insecure men are needy. They need:

1) Lots of attention, lots of it
2) Lots of control to feel secure
3) Someone else to do all of the work
4) Lots of emotional pep talks and attention, while giving none of that in return

And those aren't things that build strong relationships. Insecure men are hard to date, hard to love and hard to have relationships with.

They will sap your energy by forcing YOU to do EVERYTHING to keep the relationship going while THEY do absolutely NOTHING. Which is why he didn't pick up the phone and call you. He's expecting YOU to do ALL of the WORK here.

I'm don't think he's emotionally available and I think he always sabotage a relationship. I think he knows this and this is why he's has not entered into one with you.

And you should seriously think about whether or not you want to be in a relationship with this man or not. Because you will get very little out of this, but you'll gave give a lot to it. And eventually, you will feel unfulfilled and unhappy - because he's not capable of giving you what you deserve, want and need.; December 20, 2012 at 7:35 AM
Anonymous said...: pisces woman again .Thanks MOA i guess it will be back to the no contact with him because when i did shoot a tx off to him to tell him i was busy again no reply so its his loss and im sure he knows this .You are so right he do very little to let me know he really do care but i kinda knew when he came off angry .Well back to no contact and he will learn not to bit the hand that feeds you and be hungry thanks again you are so right im tired of his games i wouldn't care if he called me or not .; December 20, 2012 at 8:17 AM
Anonymous said...: I've been in this situation with a real bull headed taurean! I told him off for good but wonder if it is for good b/c we have a 9year friendship where recently I've been thru steps 1-10 where we shared our feelings about each other. It was real obvious he wanted sex and I went so far as a Blowjob once! They suck at communication. So they rdifficult hurtful bull headed and cocky! Not worth it.; December 21, 2012 at 9:59 AM
Anonymous said...: I am the Virgo Female who commented on Dec 11th. I thought things could have calmed down as the Taurus guy finally started a relationship with that woman he dated (now he calls her girlfriend).
Starting from the week after the lunch, he wore the same top to our group sports every time. It is a top I ever commented on. I thought he wore it to please me, but I don't get what he's really trying to do here. To my understanding, most guys what something when they try to please a woman. What worse is, couple of days ago he spoke in front of everybody that he wore the top because he thought I liked it. Luckily, I found something to joke away...
During the hangout, when I was having a conversation with some friends that he couldn't jump in, he came close and made some weird moves there - what he did looked to me like a little boy seeking for attention from mommy. (BTW, he's much older than I am)
And when I left, because that was the last hangout before X'mas, I said Merry Christmas to everybody. And he came to me wanna hug. I thought it okay for a friendly hug around shoulders before X'mas but didn't not expect a tight squeeze for half a minute in frond of everybody.
I'm totally lost now; what should I do to get along with him without making everybody else thinking we have some affair? Or it is only me who over think what he did? Is everything actually normal in your eyes?; December 23, 2012 at 11:21 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Well, he's a man, LOL. He wants an ego stroke, so he's wearing the shirt hoping you'll compliment him. He also wants your attention.

He's playing games here to test your emotional strength and to toy with you a bit. Careful though, he's dangling a carrot in front of your face - so he can yank it away I think.

I believe he's a tad insecure and he wants your attention to boost his ego and make him feel manly. And once he gets it, I fear he'll yank it away and tell you he has a girlfriend. And the entire prank is only to give himself an ego stroke and make him feel more like a man by pushing a woman's emotional buttons and getting a response from it.

Some men play many head games, sweetie. Check out this article, written by a self proclaimed player. Look at all the damn head games:

http://emmyboy.hubpages.com/hub/how-to-play-mind-games-on-women

It's really very cruel. It's also an indicator that a man who does this, is very insecure. He doesn't feel like a man and making girls cry and get upset over him makes him feel manly. It's pathetic really.; December 24, 2012 at 9:36 AM
Anonymous said...: hi
desperate for help
I am sag female who was dating a taurus man. he just broke up with me cause i got drunk and threw a bad tantrum when he came to my home to visit me. he was upset and told me he could never date me after that bad episode. we were in a long distance relationship and i want him back. should i fly to his home to see him ? scared he might not want to work things out.; December 25, 2012 at 2:34 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Dec. 24, 2:34AM,
No, ambushing a man is never a good idea, nor is confrontation. You need to let some time go by so that he can forget about what happened a bit. Like a month or so before even attempting communication of any sort accompanied with an apology.; December 25, 2012 at 1:05 PM
Anonymous said...: Question, why do Taurus men give you all the attention then when they feel like it ignore you cold turkey? I never felt so heart broken in my life. Does he want me to chase him? Why did he do this? Oh and yes he did return again but still ignoring me. Please help.; December 30, 2012 at 8:08 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
When men come on real strong at first like that, it's a red flag - beware the man that's all too ready and willing to enter into a relationship quickly. It's the old "sweep her off her feet" method of dating. And honestly, it's only done to have sex with the woman.

Men take many months before they decide they want to commit to a woman - generally 4-6 months. Anything said prior to that time frame should be taken with a grain of salt. It's only talk. Talk is cheap - actions matter more.

So when a man talks a good talk but his actions don't fall in line with what he's saying - big red flag that he may be playing you.

Don't chase him and don't contact him. Contacting him PERMITS HIM TO IGNORE YOU. If you don't contact a man, you don't give them the opportunity to ignore you.

Let him come to you. And when he does, don't respond immediately. Hang back and make him work for it.

If he doesn't do that, it wasn't meant to be. And if he returns, only to disappear again - he's playing games, he's only half interested and he's attempting to string you along - for sex.; December 30, 2012 at 2:03 PM
Leo Woman Liking A Taurus Male said...: I hate taurus'!!! So I am a leo woman who happens to really like a Taurus male. I met my taurus male in college we both had the same class together and didn't really notice each other until the middle of the semester when he started making gestures towards me, commenting on my nails every time that I would have them done. Finally one day he asked if I wanted to go out to a social event but I sadly informed him that I wasn't 21 yet. After that he would keep pursuing me and I would always dodge him after class everyday by running out of the class before he could catch me (I was in a long-term relationship at the time with my child’s father). One day he was able to catch up to me and walked me to my car where we ended up having a deep conversation about our lives and what we have been through and that’s where I had a slight interest in him. Figuring me out, he gave me his number stating that “I know you won’t give me yours” which blew me away. Several days later I txted him so that he could have my number and he proceeded by calling me “golden girl”. I found this pretty odd because I did not know him but anyways days later he txted me telling me that he wanted to see me which was very late in the night and I was already relaxed taking a bath in Epsom salts but for some reason I ended up meeting up with him. Long story short he ended up trying to make moves on me trying to touch me and kiss around my neck and behind my ear and every time we would hang out he was very sexual and not to add for two weeks straight we would always talk on the phone for hours and when we seen each other we would be up until 3-4 am talking about our lives and other matters. After two weeks of faithfully spending time with each other/ several months after knowing each other we ended up having sex and I do not know if I’m in denial or if it is a coincidence but we have completely stopped talking on the phone, we do not hang out anymore and he never returns my calls/txts and it makes me real mad because I was not interested at ALL in him and he went out his ways to make time for me and to spend time with me but now the roles have changed and I am really into him and every time I try to reach out he claims that he is very busy, he has 3 kids and currently has them for the holidays but I find it strange that he can’t make time at all to even txt/call me he told me that he does care about me and even got offended when I posed to only like him because of the sex (although I was just playing with him to see where his head was at). I know he finds me highly attractive and he loves/enjoys the sex that we have but we have had many deep conversations. I can be very very very impatient with him at times where I get pissed off and cuss him out because he cant make time for me which he claims is something that makes it hard for him to care about me.. Wow long story I know but I just want to know what do you guys think, was he playing me all along? By the way I am 20 years old and he is around 35 yrs old the first older man I’ve ever been interested in.; January 2, 2013 at 10:47 PM
Anonymous said...: I'm a Taurean girl (birthday: May 9th) dating a Taurean boy (birthday: May 10th).

We had been good friends for almost 1.5 years before we committed. It was due to our common values and beliefs that we maintained a steadfast friendship.

The Taurean boy that I know does not possess any of the "dark" qualities listed in the main article. Although he often observes and assesses people, it is not for mind-games or psychological schemes. He likes to figure out how the world works and how each individual thinks.

He thinks about the meaning of life a lot. To him, being able to spend the rest of his life with me is the meaning. He loves sensual touch, but is not shy in showing physical and verbal affection, no matter in public or when we're alone. He is fluent in expressing his feelings and is open to effective communication. "When you said this, I felt sad" etc. We can talk about anything and share good jokes. He likes to plan activities that could "strengthen the bond between us", such as hiking, baking or simply sitting on a grassy hill watching the sun set. In his heart, it is not about "him", it is about "us".

He is stubborn, but only because you cannot convince him. I am a Taurean and I share the same stubborn nature. Yet, if I manage to convince him, he is willing to try. For instance, I had to drag him along with me for his first blood donation after persuading him to help others. The next time, he was the one who reminded me that we had to go for our regular donation. Being stubborn is not a death sentence to change.

I believe that Taurean males and females could have a stable and wondrous relationship. It is nothing dynamic and thrilling, but rather like coals on a fire, slowly warming up to the heat. That is the potential love between two Taureans. Slow, but powerful and long-lasting. The two share many similar values and personality traits which others may not be able to understand. The goals in the relationship are also similar and it is highly possible that both sides could be satisfied and happy.; January 3, 2013 at 6:52 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Leo Woman,
I think he likes you as a person, but I don't get the impression he wants a relationship with you. Having sex with someone and entering into a long term relationship with them are really two different things, particularly for men.

Two things that jump out at me are:

1) It sounds as if you may be pursuing him (initiating contact)
2) It sounds as if you've let your emotions control you here at times and he's seen this

Additionally, there's a 15 year age difference here. That's sort of like an entire generation and you're both in two very different stages of your life.

Men will test women, always. And they do this by pulling back on them - and waiting to see the woman's reaction. It's a pivotal point in a budding relationship. Because if the woman freaks out when he pulls back, he thinks she's emotionally unstable and he'll retreat from that.

When a man pulls back, the answer is not to try harder and begin pursuing them. The answer is to sit and wait them out.

Read this to understand:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html

Displaying too many emotions scares men off. Acting calm, cool, collected and indifferent towards them (as you did in the beginning) is what draws them to you.

I don't really think it's him that's changed here, I think it may have been you. Meaning, at first, you were calm, cool and somewhat indifferent (didn't care) towards him - he had to pursue you, which men like to do, it's a challenge and they enjoy that. However, when your behavior changed and you began to get emotional and reacted and began pursuing him (initiating calls and contact) he saw that and distanced himself.

When men see that in a woman, they begin to think, "This is going to be like work and not fun." Or, "Can I handle her emotions? Can I make her happy and give her all she wants? Is she like this all the time?"

And that's when they run.; January 3, 2013 at 8:50 AM
Anonymous said...: MOA is right.

I can tell you straight from the horses mouth what the man also thinks (as he told me) - I pulled back - he came forward - I then went too far forward and sent a needy message (he was ok with that he told me) - then I changed my mind and went full throttle forward wanting to see him when he couldn't and we had a one hour chat which made me feel better.

However the result to him was, which he told me: "Oh I can't be doing with this."

And then he pulled right back and even told me he'd pulled back because of the one hour chat.; January 3, 2013 at 11:21 AM
Anonymous said...: MOA speaks a lot of sense because ...PS. Whilst you can make one or two mistakes like I did as a woman, the way to have retrieved that mistake and got things even keel again and balanced/him back into you....would have been to ensure the next move would be to be less available, cancel the next date, or pull back myself. As the worst thing to do would be to keep charging forward like I did, be too available and telling him I wanted to see more of him....it sent us on a downward spiral I now realise that.; January 3, 2013 at 11:38 AM
Anonymous said...: Mirror, I love your article. I have a question for you, why do Taurus men stare at a woman? I notice when they reappear and they see you again, they are staring at you. Why is that?; January 5, 2013 at 6:43 PM
Anonymous said...: I'm the Virgo who posted on Dec 23rd. Reading the mind game article gave me a mixed feeling...If I learnt all the tricks to pass all these tests, would I be really happy being with the guy who always like to play the mind games? The Taurus guy I've been talking about went through a divorce. According to what he said about his ex, obviously she passed all the tests at the very beginning; and he was so surprised that when their 10+ relationship came to an end because of her cheating and taking away his money. To be honest, I originally fell for him partially due to his sad story. Now understanding all his "games", I start to think he deserved it - I am shocked by my evil thinking.
We had a get together after the new year, not to mention what he did to me when we played games, at goodbye, the squeeze hug this time came with a lift. I am wondering whether I am too old fashioned, should any guy in a relationship ever do such a hug to a female not his gf?; January 5, 2013 at 11:02 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Jan. 5, 6:43PM,
I can't really elaborate on that one because I've never understood it to necessarily be a Taurus trait.

One could assume though that he's observing you. Observing your actions, your speech, your body language. Taurus men are "come hither" types, so it would make sense that they could attempt to lure a woman and draw her in with their eyes.; January 6, 2013 at 3:06 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
"If I learnt all the tricks to pass all these tests, would I be really happy being with the guy who always like to play the mind games?"

Well you can always expect a man to pull back in the early days of a budding relationship. It's how they find out if the woman is:

1) Crazy
2) Psycho
3) Emotionally unstable
4) Needy and clingly
5) OR Strong, confident and independent

So it's to be expected to an extent. But a guy who does this repeatedly and regularly is not a genuinely interested man. He's a flake that seeking free sex and you're number 4 in his rotation of 6. So when your numbers up, you get the call, LOL.

"Now understanding all his "games", I start to think he deserved it."

Everytime men play the game, they risk losing the woman. And if they continue to play it, they're insecure men who need to tinker with women's heads, hearts and emotions. Why? Because they don't feel good about themselves and they don't feel manly - and playing games, making women cry and plead - makes them feel good about themselves (it reassures them that she cares) and it makes them feel manly (provides an ego boost).

And I always say, insecure men don't make good husbands, boyfriends or lovers. Why? Because they will exhaust you, suck the life out of you - and have you scrambling for the door just to get the hell outta' crazy land.

"I am shocked by my evil thinking."

Don't be. You're on the right track here.

". . .not to mention what he did to me when we played games, at goodbye, the squeeze hug this time came with a lift. I am wondering whether I am too old fashioned, should any guy in a relationship ever do such a hug to a female not his gf?"

No. But then again, this falls in line with an insecure man. Because one other thing they tend to do - is cheat. Why? Again, it makes them feel good about themselves and it makes them feel manly. Insecure guys needs LOTS and LOTS of attention (it's exhausting, all that ego stroking they require). And it's so much that they need that, most times, it takes more than one woman to provide it.

In some subtle way, I'd dig to find out if he ever "stepped outside" his marriage and cheated without blatently asking. Because my gut here is telling me he may very well have. And if he didn't engage in sex itself, it's possible he had an "emotional affair" of some sort with another woman - who stroked that ego.

Because it's not really the sex that insecure men need - it's the CONSTANT attention and ego stroking they need to continually feel good about themselves.

Everytime I hear some guy complain how his wife suddenly went cold or did this or didn't do that . . . I find out he cheated.

So now, the more I hear a man complain about his ex wife and BLAME her for their demise, acting as if it came out of the blue from nowhere - the more I'm convinced he cheated - and he knows FULL WELL what actually happened.

I know many men that play the old "wounded warrior" routine, honey. They play on women's emotions and lure them in with their "whoe is me" stories.

And then you find out the truth - that they're a louse.; January 6, 2013 at 3:20 PM
Anonymous said...: Em...I used to think I am so old fashioned that only I think seeking outside of marriage without sex involved is also cheating. Some people said a man and a woman going out alone without any physical action is called "friendship".
As for whether the Taurus man ever cheated, I think you are right - there might not be sex involved, but he has always been flirted around. He always claims barking dog does not bite. Now I'm wondering what his definition of "bite" is.
Virgo Female; January 6, 2013 at 8:14 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Well, here's the thing about an "emotional affair." It's not necessarily simply a man and a woman spending time together. What makes it an emotional affair, is when he starts sharing his inner world, his emotions, with another woman instead of his wife.

When married, that bond of intimacy needs to be between the man and the wife. When a man starts to bond intimately to another woman, he might as well be screwing her because the bond of intimacy with his wife is then broken.

And that comment of his - I think I'm right. And I bet he humiliated his wife publicly, flirting with other women and disrespected her, and I bet he conducted himself as if he were a single man, constantly rubbing her face in his shenanigans.

A barking dog may not bite, but if he ain't barking at his wife - he might as well just shut the f_ck up - because it's the other woman that's getting the attention, the one he's barking at - and not his wife, the one who deserves it.

And that is what constitutes "neglect" in a marriage. And he sounds as if he was very neglectful to his wife.

So when another man came along and started barking at her (showing her attention) - she shut the new man up - by moving into his dog house ;-)

Next time he says that to you, you tell him, "You can't teach an old dog new tricks" ;-); January 6, 2013 at 8:30 PM
Anonymous said...: LOL, I like your suggestion ^_^
I don't know whether he had ever done the flirting thing right in front of his wife...I bet he should have been smart enough not to do it in front of the woman that he vowed to spend his life with and had been spending a lot of money on. But I do feel that his feeling towards his ex lacked respect; I used to think it was because that he paid for everything in their marriage and even paid for his wife's tuition. Now knowing what he does in a relationship, behind his gf, I guess it in his blood.
With regards to sharing inner world with women not his wife, my feeling is, other than flirtatious conversation, he does not know how to talk to a woman. And he said that he knows how to make a woman happy - by putting money in his ex' bank account.
Virgo Female; January 6, 2013 at 10:47 PM
Anonymous said...: Can you imagine having a bloke with a body like the Taurean on the photo? Look at those lovely thighs!; January 8, 2013 at 8:50 PM
Anonymous said...: Be friends?
The Taurus asked me whether I can treat him like one of my male friends after saying to me "I cannot give you anything other than the coffee" (he wanted to buy me a coffee and I said no thanks cuz I really didn't feel like drinking a coffee that time).
Am I too sensitive? I think I was upset by what he joked about the coffee thing. And later, when we talked about a common interest, he said "I liked you more". My simultaneous response said "But I don't like you" in front of another friend. He reponded right back with "I don't like you, either. We are on the same page!"
Was he really trying to make us friends? And I was the one who couldn't let it go? Or he feels insecured in his current relationship and is trying to keep me as a backup.
If he ever asks again and stops flirting with me, should I really accept him as a male friend after all my stories posted earlier?

Virgo Female; January 8, 2013 at 8:57 PM
College Student said...: Mirror,

Just read this. Can you go into detail of the Taurus motto: I will..Have you in the palm of my hand? Also if a girl is in the palm of his hand, how does she get out of it? He ignores me and I still think about him. I don't know if I'm in his hands or not by him ignoring me. Please help. Thanks; January 8, 2013 at 9:36 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Virgo Female,
That's up to you. If you want to be friends and think you can be, then that's up to you.

And if he wants friendship and you decide to do that, make sure you stay just that - friends only. Don't let him say he wants to be friends and then he makes the moves to have sex with you. Because if he does that, he wants to be friends with benefits.; January 9, 2013 at 8:37 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @College Student,
I elaborated on that in the article above. It's the portion that explains how a Taurus male works women in a harem of worshippers - by hanging around them all the time.

He's attempting to disarm the women by being around them all the time - so he can move in on them.; January 9, 2013 at 8:39 AM
Anonymous said...: @ Mirror & College Student,

I have male friens that we enjoy hanging out and having fun together. I was okay the Taurus at the beginning until I felt that he could have been playing my mind. When I tried to pull myself away, his behavior in public made me concerned. Asking why I don't like him anymore and begging me to treat him like a male friend in front of others made me the bad girl. Some people start to think there is something between us; others think I am too mean too him.
Here I am not too concerned that he want S.. with me. I just don't want to be one in his harem.
I tend to do my best to help people that like me but I am not interested in to move on; while, I know there are people enjoy having a handful of admirors around in case of breakup - which is a very selfish thing, from my oppinion. We women have to make us strong enough to handle this. It is my first time ever encounter such a person. But I think it good that at least I am getting my heart being trained out of it.
Being the one that Taurus could feel lucky and happy. But if you are not the one, don't be fooled by him. Hope sharing my experience here can help more people get out of the harem.

Virgo Female; January 9, 2013 at 1:32 PM
College Student said...: @ Virgo Female & Mirror. It is soooo hard to stop being in love with him. I fell hard and then he disappears and ignores me. He comes back and ignores me more and it makes me cry. I don't deserve this kind of treatment from him. I don't know if he is ignoring me to get me to chase him so I can be a part of his harem but I won't do that. I wish I wasn't in love with him. Taurus men who do this to women make me sick. The last thing I need to worry about is how many women he is with.; January 10, 2013 at 12:03 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @College Student,
A lot of men do that sort of thing for attention, honey. Those are insecure men, the one's that return, ignore, return, ignore. They're returning because they like the attention they receive when they do, it's an ego boost for them.

You're right, you don't deserve to be treated like that by him. Which is why, when he returns, he does not receive your attention, you ignore him and you take control and break this toxic cycle.; January 10, 2013 at 8:21 AM
Anonymous said...: wellhello ladies. pisces woman from december 20th is back to say he has returned . lol .he sented he a tx so i took hours to return it so i noticed that the action i wa takeing he did the same . takeing hours to answer me. well i want all to know this pisces woman is about to take this taurus male where still waters run deep . teach him some thing i am older than he is but im so drawn to him . last night i woke out my sleep to find out its been 4wks 26day he did the n/c to me i sure like to know whats going on in his mind . i use to tx him all the time now it will be only when he tx me and i will mirror him to the tee. im in no mood to play games but if thats what he wants then so be it . MOA what do you think this is all about?; January 10, 2013 at 11:07 AM
Leo Woman Liking a Taurus Male said...: @Mirror of Aphrodite & College Student

First of all Mirror thanks for ur advice, it was very helpful however you know how stubborn Leo's are.. We have to go thru it ourselves to and learn the hard way smh..

So I did something that I would NEVER do.. I popped up at my Taurus' house 2 in the morning.. Reason being that his cell was disconnected b/c he hadn't paid his bill.. Anyways, he was home and when he seen me he was so happy he told me to "Come here" and he grabbed me and gave me a strong hug and held me tight for several minutes then he was just in disbelief that I was there before his eyes as if he missed me.. We hung out in the living room and chatted for an hour or two about our winter break and it just felt like the beginning of our "friendship" we were both just happy to see each other and to be in each other's prescence. Anyways being that it was after 2 am and I had woke him up to sleep and I had to get up at 6 am to go back home to get ready for work, we proceeded to his bedroom where we conversated more about us and how I was mad at him b/c of how we dont get to spend much time with each other and we just laid there and he again held me tight in his arms for a very very long time and we just started kissing passionately as we could feel the great chemistry between us I mean like rush of electricity shocking thru our bodies and not more of lust but just of passionate love it felt like it was just wonderful... I just find it weird how he was hugging me because he was very passionate and he initiated the hugs and when we kissed it wasnt much of sexual emotions per say it was more of passionate kisses he just was sitting there holding me rubbing my back at the same time just kissing me endlessly... Ahhhhhh Mirror of Aphrodite what am I up against??

@College Student I know how you feel trust me I am dealing with a Taurus whom I was never .5 seconds interested in a day in my life and he kept pursuing me 2 months straight after me rejecting him every time and now 3-4 months later I feel like I am in love and he is no longer chasing me lol he claims that he is very busy with his kids and "reminded" me that "the time we spent together was mostly during school hours on campus/ after class" because that's when we had time to spend.. Aaaahhh what to do with dear ol' taurus..; January 10, 2013 at 1:22 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Jan. 10, 11:07AM,
"MOA what do you think this is all about?"

It's too early to say. But if you pull back and let him come to you, you'll find out. You'll be able to see his level of interest by his actions.

If he pursues you, there's a good chance he's genuinely interested. But that's not with one more attempt - that's with maybe 5 or 6 more attempts.

If he just comes around periodically, he's only half interested and looking to stir things up and string you along.

So you're best bet is to continue doing what you're doing and wait him out to judge his level of interest based upon his actions.; January 10, 2013 at 4:49 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Leo Woman Liking Taurus Man,
"Mirror of Aphrodite what am I up against??"

Careful, LOL. You don't want to walk right into a situation where you get used and he disappears.

At this point, since you've initiated this contact again, you're best bet is to take a step back and see if he takes a step forward.

Because the thing is, men will be happy to see you. They'll be happy to sleep with you.

But wanting a relationship with you can be an ENTIRELY different story. So don't confuse the two and keep your guard up here.; January 10, 2013 at 4:53 PM
College Student said...: Mirror your right. I just got to ignore him, but it is hard to see him with his harem. I see so many women around him and treat him like a star. It is crazy. Yeah like a post I read earlier about the "staring". He is doing the same thing. Yes He does stare but ignores. My mind goes crazy thinking "who is this girl or that girl?" Now that my feelings are involved, I know I can get hurt very easy. I would think "Does he even think of me?" Guess I'll never know cause he won't tell me a thing.; January 10, 2013 at 10:36 PM
Anonymous said...: My concern has been approved that his relationship has been downgraded from g/bf to seeing. That very well explains why he needs my attention and wants me as a friend.
Not sure who downgraded whom; but his intetion to me is quite obvious. So ladies, really be careful of making friends with a male taurus!

Virgo Female; January 11, 2013 at 6:39 PM
Anonymous said...: Hey Mirror,

What if I show this article to the Taurus male that I like, Will he denied What he is doing? Will he make up excuses? Will he ever talk to me again? And is this Taurus males best kept secret?
Thanks; January 12, 2013 at 7:47 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Honey I really have no clue how he'll react, everyone is different.

And I don't think it's a secret anymore ;-); January 12, 2013 at 9:14 AM
Anonymous said...: A MALE TOLD ME BEFORE IF YOU ARE THINKING OF SOMEONE THEY ARE THINKING OF YOU ALSO . I SAY THIS TO SAY MEN ARE DIFFERENT BUT THEY DO HAVE MINDS AND IF YOU ARE A GOOD WOMAN HE TRUELY DO THINK OF YOU; January 13, 2013 at 9:15 PM
Sag Female said...: PART 1

Hello! This is the Sag Female from April of last year. I wrote about my experience with my ex-boyfriend who was a Taurus male.

It's been almost a year, so I thought I would give an update on my situation and I would love it if Mirror of Aphrodite & Jay R could respond some time since they helped me through the difficult time I was having.

To recap, I dated my ex from 2007-2008, and after we broke up it was all confusing- i was never sure how he felt, he was never open about his feelings verbally but his actions sometimes said otherwise. I would hear about his feelings from mutual friends, never him. I dated someone else, later found out he still liked me. In Feb 2011 I told him I still loved him, he did not respond at all- he told mutual friends he would rather "try to forget about it". We remained best of friends through all of these, then last year in April/May (when I last posted on this website), I found out he had an interesting hook-up and when I questioned him about it, he was very rude/sarcastic/mean. I was more confused than ever as to how he feels so I asked him if we could meet up one day to talk. He avoided this for 4 days until finally I sent him a msg saying to never speak to me again. I felt like I had enough after 5 years.; January 14, 2013 at 12:25 PM
Sag Female said...: PART 2

Soo since then, I stayed away from him. I did not speak to him, he did not speak to me. He never even answered my message. I ended up meeting someone else in June 2012, SURPRISE he is also a Taurus. Fortunately, he is a very sweet, amazing, caring, loving and patient man. I am still in a relationship with him, it's been about 7 months. I should also point out that my ex, my boyfriend and I all live in the same neighbourhood. So anyways, my boyfriend and I grew stronger and over the summer my ex actually showed up at my boyfriend's work a few times with friends (at a restaurant), and he would giggle like a child in the presence of my boyfriend. Time went on... then in September I found out my ex had got accepted to travel overseas to represent our country in a competition. This is a huge accomplishment and it made me sad because I used to be the first to hear about amazing news like this, not having to see it on Facebook. I decided I wanted to be civil with him. I spoke to my ex about it and he agreed it's never beneficial to be on poor terms with someone. I messaged my ex in late September apologizing for saying i never wanted to talk to him again. I told him i was just angry and overreacted, and I was stubborn for not messaging him until now. He responded shortly after, apologizing as well and saying he is just as stubborn. I was glad we became civil. He ended up going overseas for the competition, and I sent him a message when he came home at the end of November asking how it was. We had a short conversation and then to my surprise, we ended up at the same bar in our area that night. I was with my girlfriends, and he was with 2 girls- one of which i did not recognize. As soon as he walked into the bar, my girlfriend told me he was there, so i turned around and he was already walking straight to me. I found this slightly odd because I haven't seen him in over year, even before our fall-out in the spring. He came right up to me, ignoring all of our mutual friends and pulled me into a hug. This was followed by a "how are you" "good" and then some awkward silence. It's sad when you're so close to someone, but then one day you have nothing left to say. Anyways, while he hugged me, this girl i did not recognize was giving me a really MEAN stare. I ignored it and continued talking to him. 2 nights later, I saw on Facebook that he was in a relationship, turns out to be with the girl giving me the mean look! It was a bit unsettling for me to see because this is the first girl he has dated since we broke up, 5 years ago. But I am truly happy in my relationship, so i sucked it up and just moved forward. My birthday passed in December, my ex wished me a happy birthday which I did not expect. I recently found out that he still likes me through mutual friends, and when I responded with "but he has a girlfriend now", they say "he could have 10 or 100 girlfriends, he will always be thinking of you and he's not over you".

I really have strong feelings for my boyfriend, although I think it's too early to call it "love", but regardless i have no intention of ever wanting to be with my ex again after everything he put me through. I just sometimes feel uneasy about our whole situation, and I don't like hearing about his feelings through other people. Why can't he just tell me? And do you think he began dating this other girl because I'm in a relationship?

Give me some insight please! I have personally given up trying to figure him out, so maybe someone else can help!; January 14, 2013 at 12:26 PM
Anonymous said...: Mirror, I read this and the no contact rule article. Does a Taurus male knows a woman is thinking about him even though he is ignoring her?; January 18, 2013 at 5:28 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Of course he does, honey. That's why they do it, LOL:

http://emmyboy.hubpages.com/hub/how-to-play-mind-games-on-women; January 18, 2013 at 5:33 PM
Anonymous said...: Well I am a Taurus female and I got with a Taurus guy when I was 14 - he was very popular in school and he persued me where I was working as a waitress, to my shock. We dated for over a year and then he became hooked on drugs and finished it said I deserved better. That was that we have remained friends ever since. Only problem is we have been sleeping with eachother n and off for nearly 15 years even when weve both had partners we always ended up in the sack he has now moved over seas and everytime he comes over we make a point of meeting up well he always rings me and he comes to mine or I go to his etc.. This guy was my first love and I just cant get my head around it; January 20, 2013 at 4:01 PM
Anonymous said...: Mirror,

My ex is a Taurus and I saw this on his profile

"i found someone better than you......i wish the same for you cuz i know im not perfect"

I started to cry when I saw that. Him to say he found someone better than me? What should I do from this point?; January 21, 2013 at 1:19 PM
Anonymous said...: pt 1 Hi MOA, I was hoping you could give me some advice. I'm a Virgo female ofcourse dealing with a Taurus male. I've spent the last 3days reading every comment on this topic and you inspired me to buy and read that book Why Men Love Bitches (i'm on page 202) and I have to admit you and the author have a great point. I think I am only half bitch and still half nice girl. Some of the things mentioned I already do with this guy like I mirror his actions and interest tit for tat. I don't give him more than he gives me. We recently returned from a road trip in which he told me he wanted to take things "slow" and grow together blah blah. Well being the virgo that I am I am extremely literal and I slowed waay down. He left for 3 weeks on business after that and I made a point to not initiate any contact and mushy text anything unless he reached out first and I made sure to put space; sometimes a day or hours between my responses depending on when he reached out. Secretly I think he was testing me with this whole move slow thing to see if I'd run. I didn't break it off but i gave nothing emotionally after that. And I have to admit it worked..Not more than a day would go by without contact. He even started to call me more and he hates the phone. He would call and tell me all sorts of random personal stuff and ask me to come out to see him (to which I declined). So i'm thinking i'm on the right track. By the Friday before he was set to return he was texting me randomly telling me how much he liked/missed me etc. Ok so the Sunday before he returns that Tuesday I feel a shift...He doesn't contact me after Sunday night until Tues and we chat til he boards the plane but I can feel a shift. He arrives on Tues and he is uber-stressed by the amount of piled up work he has to catch up and how awful the 14hr flight was. A part of me feels like this may be the shift but I can't be sure. Anyway we spend the next few days together but I can tell his mind is elsewhere...He is definitely back in work mode. So a side note at 1 point while we're together he asks me to program his Ipad while he showers. I do and at 1 point i go to program his email to which I find is already programmed and in rolls emails from like 3 different chicks. Now he didn't respond to any of the emails and I could see some of them had been trying to reach out for quite some time and were pretty sexually aggressive and needy in the emails. The bothersome part was 1 email was from a chick he gave his card to the day he left for his trip(they did talk back and forth for a few days then the contact stops). Now here is where I call mind games...I feel like in his fear I was going to leave once he got on the plane he started to try to find new chicks and i think he NEW I would end up in his email and wanted to see how I would react to those emails. Now we're not exclusive so I didn't say a dayumm thing didnt even mention I saw his emails. He came out of the shower and I was playing Angry Birds whistling a tune. My thing is I categorize and if you do too many bullsh*t things your category will overflow and you will be dismissed. But admittedly now he gets very little leeway with me and Im basically looking for a reason to justify to myself showing him the door. So back to my story I took him back to his home a few days later so he could work tried to leave he begged me to stay. When he found he could not work (technical issues) he became super-irritated and went to sleep...Didn't say anything just went to the next room and laid down. Now that just does not work for me so I left didnt call or respond to his calls the next day. He ended the next evening with an "I hope you're ok :-(" text.; January 21, 2013 at 2:22 PM
Anonymous said...: pt2 So the following day he doesn't contact me and I make sure to go out and give myself a fabulous day. Later that evening he text me to tell me he's going to be working late and he will call about getting together when he is finished. I respond with cool hope you can make it. Later that night much later he text me good night baby. :-| Ok now i'm officially pissed and not sure if his current pre-occupation coupled with new mind games is fueling it or if I'm justified in my irritation. But hey call me and tell me not tonight don't just hit me with a good night text as if we weren't trying to make plans. Now granted I was out anyway; once he said he was working late I made other plans. So now I've taken a vow of silence; it will be tues or wed before I decide to respond. Thus far i've gotten 3 text since last night and I will not respond to anything. I'm a virgo; we created stubborn. So here is my question I need to tell him in a succinct bitchy way that even when you're frustrated its common courtesy to say something before you leave someone in a room while you go sleep & even when you've got a stack of work out the window its common courtesy to follow up on plans not just act like they dont exist. Finally and here is where i'm a nice girl in need of reform. While I keep my own life and will ignore him in a heartbeat; I am too helpful and after reading the book I'm afraid that that will be seen as weakness and something to walk over me for. He own several business and is not very organized so I assist with the stuff happening here...Little errands, research and I naturally love cooking so he always eats well when he's here. Now mind you I don't break plans to do it and he does reciprocate by keeping my car fixed, bringing little gifts things like that. I am a nurturer that way but I don't want this to be mistaken for pushover. How do I make sure he understands the difference. I've been this way since we've met and its my personality to be helpful so I don't necessarily want to change but I am not ok with someone using me either. How can I find a balance that keeps the respect-o-meter on point? I was to the point today that if he called me to ask me to do something for him or anything other than to check on me I was going to gather everything of his put it in a box and drop it on his doorstep. So please MOA give me a "to the point" way of addressing these issues with him when I break my silence that doesn't make me sound emotional or like i'm trying to nagg. Thanks! Virgo Chick!; January 21, 2013 at 2:23 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Jan. 21, 1:19PM,
I realize that hurts, but screw him, LOL ;-)

You don't do a thing here. Don't react because that's what he's expecting - he's trying to get under your skin. There's no other reason to make a comment like that.

So don't react or get emotional over it and just ignore him.; January 21, 2013 at 5:07 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @VirgoChick, Jan. 21, 2:22PM,
Well, honestly, I wouldn't address those issues with words - I'd address those issues with action. And by that, I mean - when he phones only for favors - you're too busy. You'd love to help but you can't at the moment and you end the call quickly, no small talk.

When he phones you to see how you're doing, THEN you talk.

Stop performing functions for him like a machine and only speak to him when it's about YOU - or you and him.

It's fine that you're a nurturer, most women are. But he's not your boyfriend, he's not your husband, he's not your boss, you don't get a paycheck from him - he gets nothing out of you but YOU. You as a woman.

If he needs a secretary or a personal assistant, tell him to go hire one if he starts whining about all this stuff piling up. Say it nicely and matter-of-fact. Don't get angry. Just tell him you're busy with your own life and you no longer have the time to perform "functions" for him. But if he'd like to spend time with you that doesn't involve work or favors for him, then fine.

And next time he expects dinner - serve him up a piping hot plate of popcorn - as the book author suggests ;-); January 21, 2013 at 5:18 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi MOA, thank you for the response! I agree totally and decided today that I was going to back away from helping with the business that way if he stops coming around I know he was only in it for 1 reason. I don't think that's the case but I don't want to create a pattern of behavior that I can't undue. The cooking thing is a bit more difficult. I have a son so I cook every night for my myself and my son. If he happens to come over after work there is always cooked food available. However in my defense i've only cooked specifically for him 3 times since we've been dating. My last question: how should I address the rudeness of leaving and going to sleep and not acknowledging plans we were trying to make. At some point he's going to realize there is a point behind my distance and want to know why. I need him to understand that I don't do disrespect. How do I say that in a matter of fact way that gets my point across? Or should I just not address that either. And if I don't address it then when I finally speak to him do I just play it cool like "Oh I was busy, but how are you dear?" Thanks MOA; Virgo Chick :-); January 21, 2013 at 5:36 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @VirgoChick,
"Or should I just not address that either. And if I don't address it then when I finally speak to him do I just play it cool like "Oh I was busy, but how are you dear?"

Yep - now you're getting it ;-)

If you SAY it, he won't hear it. It'll come across as nagging and men tune that out and/or they flip it and use it against you, as I wrote about here:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/07/what-is-nagging-and-shifting-blame.html

So rather than give him the opportunity to "spin" things around and make them your fault somehow - you don't say or do anything about it. If he asks what's going on - you've simply been busy is all. And if he asks what happened that night, you tell him you had things to do and he needed his rest so you left.

And then you continue to back away and distance yourself. This will make his head spin. It'll drive him bonkers as to what's really going on.

But the magic here is . . . if you leave him wrestle with those thoughts and you remain calm, cool and collected about it - HE will begin to THINK about what went wrong . . . and he'll figure it out himself.

THAT'S when the message is received loud and clear.

But in order to hear it, men need to go through their own thought process to do so. Hearing it from someone else only sounds like nagging and they ignore it.

So back away, don't tell him anything and let HIM figure it out - and he will.

I just added a video to this piece here. It's a song a man wrote and the lyrics are displayed. Go listen to that song and pay close attention to those lyrics.

The man is singing about the VERY THING I just explained here - and you'll hear the thought process he went through in the lyrics. And in it, notice he says, "I finally see the end."

He meant that some woman ended it with him - and THAT'S when he saw the light.

You can find the video here, midway down the page:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/11/dating-when-why-how-use-no-contact-rule.html; January 21, 2013 at 6:03 PM
Anonymous said...: WOW!!! I really feel like stroking a white cat while doing my cartoon evil grin/laugh. This is GENIUS!!! And you're totally right...This is the reason I've been struggling with what to say because I knew no matter how I approached it, it would somehow turn into an argument and I'd end being the 1 to feel bad and the power I'm holding right now would shift BACK to him and he would begin to ignore me. All this time I've been thinking that these were just coincidental results. It never occurred to me that this was all a game plan on his end to "turn the tables" and follow that up with his own "No Contact" to drive me insane. And you know what the last time he did it...it totally worked. In never let him know how fully tormented I was but I was a friggin basket case. By the time he came back (3 days later) I would have given him anything to keep him happy. This is crazy!!! I feel SOOO much better now because deep down I knew that addressing it was not going to go well...Now I know I don't have to. I LOVE IT! While a part of me wants to worry that if I ignore him he may run to 1 of those women who are all too happy to run after him and throw themselves at him. I continue to remind myself that I'm awesome and if he's smart enough to recognize that he won't go anywhere and if he's not the he wasn't worth all the trouble anyway. This website is getting bookmarked (under a secret name just in case he's ever on my computer ;-) Thank you MOA.; January 21, 2013 at 6:40 PM
Anonymous said...: Hey Anonymous January 21 6.40pm

Would love to hear if putting your new insight into action works with him girlfriend and you see a turnaround!!!! come back and let us know, when you know won't you!; January 21, 2013 at 6:54 PM
Anonymous said...: I definitely will!!! Wish me luck :-); January 21, 2013 at 6:56 PM
Anonymous said...: Ok guys... So I have a brief update. I was elbows deep in day 2.5 of ignorapalooza2013 and I have to say today was much more difficult than yesterday as I knew his stubborness would kick in and he would not contact me (at least not until right before he went to sleep to give me as much time as possible to call him 1st). So I'm miserable all day trying to focus on everything but him; willing myself not to give in and contact him first. As a last ditch effort I respond to the text messages of a few interested men who might as well be mutants I'm so not interested (due to my Taurus). And no sooner than I hit send than my phone rings that special ringtone. GUESS who's at my door. YUP he just happened to be in the neighborhood (we live 30 miles apart) and he wanted to pick up some jeans. (He had on jeans and umm the day is over) So I let him in and I'm polite but NOT my normal BABY IM SO GLAD TO SEE YOU KISS KISS KISS self. He doesn't ask about my disappearance he just keeps staring at me, trying to explain how much work he's been doing, hugs, kisses, playing in my hair. Then he asks if I want to go away again on another trip. I told him maybe plan the details and I'll check my schedule and get back to him. He goes to look for the jeans and comes back sans jeans. I ask if he'd like to change he responds: No I can do it tomorrow. I stifle my smile. He tells me he just stopped by in the middle of working but would be back to massage my scalp and talk about plans for tomorrow. I tell him I'm very tired and if it's after 12 don't bother. Another thing is he has his best friend since childhood with him and his friend loves me. So the friend makes the comment to me after I grab him something to drink that he think he loves me more that my taurus does...then he laughs and says nah probably not more than that. I did not flinch I just politely smiled and said aww thanks! Then he left promising to at least call when he's done (we'll see). When he left he took the suitcase he left when he was last here (kinda hurt my feelings) and I responded: Oh your taking your things I wanted to get everything else of yours together so you can have it all. And ran down a list of what I was talking about. He looked at me stunned and said no thats not necessary I'll get it another time. It's not like i'm leaving forever. I said ok well let me know. He kisses me and goes. Now normally I would follow an encounter like this up with a sweet text msg along the lines of: I hope you make it back baby. But tonight I think I'll see just how motivated he is to act right. I'll be back with updates. Wish me luck!!!; January 22, 2013 at 8:59 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Doesn't it feel great to take back control? Empowering.

And when he does contact you, if he asks if any things wrong...you say "No, I'm fine! How bout you though? You look like something's wrong."

And you flip it off of you and onto him.

And if he says, "I'm cool. You've just been acting strange is all."

You say, "Strange. LOL...your the one who's acting strange right now babe."

And you say that in a very carefree, pleasant, slightly giggling at him, manner.

You keep flipping it right back onto him....until he finally gets it that - it's HIM that's the problem ;-); January 22, 2013 at 9:56 PM
Anonymous said...: I love it! And I'm totally going to do it! And YES it feels soo good having my power back that I think I'll keep up a bit of distance for a while. I need him to understand that I am NOT a foregone conclusion! I'll admit at around 1pm when I didn't get his daily communication I began to panic that he just didn't care and moved on to the next one. I am so glad I did not give in to my fears as I would have felt terrible for it in the end...I realize now that everyone that says give a Taurus everything they want so they know you like them; are WRONG. Don't get me wrong I'll give just enough so he knows I'm interested but not a drop more than he gives in return...If I'm going down I'm taking him with me...lol I kid... Thanks a million, trillion, zillion; MOA. (VC); January 22, 2013 at 10:38 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi everyone. I am a Taurus woman and I am so much attracted to this Taurus man. He is a colleague/university classmate of mine. He is so charismatic, handsome, smart, perfect skin, perfect teeth, he basically has the whole package. I have known him for a year and a half now, and one night we were drunk, I made my move and kissed him first. He asked me out to discuss it in person (after I initiated the conversation) but he did not say anything in particular, it was more or less random conversation (and I was doing most of the talking). Since then, he is sort of ignorant towards me. He only talks to me in chat, but not really in person. He does behave differently with the rest though; towards me he is different everyday. I don't understand him at all and it is very confusing for me.

But I do agree that they are irresistible and very ambiguous.; January 23, 2013 at 9:33 AM
Anonymous said...: I am a Taurus female, and I don't know why but all 3 men I fell for in my life were Taurus. And no matter how much it can hurt being with them or trying to make the relationship/affair work, it is just worth it, especially if they end up falling for you.; January 23, 2013 at 9:51 AM
Anonymous said...: OMG! This is right on point. I don't know where to begin. He told me from the start and several times thru out our 6 month relationship that he didn't want anything exclusive he's just not that type of dude and never will be. He was such a gentleman, opened door pulled out chairs, very attentive everything the article says. He said he wanted me to open up more (communication). Huh, okay I did over time I did and poured out my soul. Guess it was to much, cuz guess what happened he started acting cold and very distant. What?? Are u kidding me, I'm thinking. So now he says let's just be friends cuz I can't give u what u want the monogamy and we both want different things. So poof he vanishes.; January 23, 2013 at 7:50 PM
Anonymous said...: This is so trueee..it's freaky how accurate this is!; January 24, 2013 at 6:37 AM
Anonymous said...: Hi guys! It's VC back again...Ok MOA you should really change your name to evil genius because that's what you are! So as you predicted my Taurus called the other night at 11:39 on the dot and his 1st question was "Are you ok?" And I flipped it on him a few times before he finally relented and just said he's been stressed out. So he doesn't finish work before 12 and true to my word I did not see him that night (my choice not his) and I did not contact him the next day either. So yesterday afternoon he send me some random attention getting text and I eventually respond. Long story short he ask me to let him show me the place he wants to buy (he's decided to move to my state permanently). So later that evening we go to take a look at he house (beautiful) and he's so excited that I love it so much. And he turns to me smiling and says this is your house. And he keeps saying things like that and welcome home etc etc. Well this STUNS me silent honestly and I'm so afraid to dig deeper into his comments that I just pretend he's not saying it and focus on how awesome the house is. I really hope I didn't make him think I wasn't into him but hearing him say that was a LOT to take in. And I'm hesitant to start swinging from the rafters with joy since I don't know for sure he was being sincere or if this is just a Taurus saying what he thinks I want to hear. At 1 point he comments on the fact that the place has a built in tennis area and just smiles to himself, which is interesting since my son plays tennis. So the night ends back at my place and it's super late when we get in and I assume he'll just fall asleep but he literally gave me a massage for almost 3hours until I fell asleep. It was heavenly. He just kept saying we can't have you stressed. Then he wrapped his entire body around me and we went to sleep with him lightly kissing my shoulder/neck. If I were a lesser woman I would have woken up head over heels in love with this guy. Anyway in the morning he continued his massage while we lay in bed together. I did make breakfast as a surprise to him as a thanks for the massage and then we had a loong shower together...the rest is not for your virgin eyes/ears. Thus far "No Contact" has worked wonderfully well. I'm still hesitant to be all in because he is a Taurus, he does have women that he flirts with and he's just been so pre-occupied lately. I try to remind myself that his distance is a work thing but there is still a part of me that fears he just may not be that into me...What if all this is some sort of sick game? When can I stop worrying about this and just enjoy myself and believe that our feelings are mutual. I wonder if he will mention moving in together again. Not that I would but I like the idea that he would want me to...Any advice or opinions on what to do next is most appreciated (VC); January 24, 2013 at 1:42 PM
This girl is confused said...: Hi Mirror,

I'm new to this site, and I'm in his harem. My question is how do I get out of his harem and brake the spell he has under me? I worshiped the ground he walks on and I will have dreams about him. I'm in too deep and my mind is going crazy. Please help. I wish I never met him.; January 24, 2013 at 4:15 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @ThisGirlisConfused,
"how do I get out of his harem and brake the spell he has under me?"

This is where your free will comes in. It's your choice to remain in his harem. If you want out of it, you simply remove yourself from it:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/11/dating-when-why-how-use-no-contact-rule.html

And you begin practicing this:

http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/11/how-to-say-no-dating-life-consequence.html

You can't make a man love you or want to be with you. He has to want that, too.; January 24, 2013 at 5:54 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @VC,
I don't want to burst your bubble here, but be VERY careful with this one.

"And he turns to me smiling and says this is your house."

Yea, I don't know if I'm swallowing that. Sounds like a bunch of BS to me. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm sure he likes you and you're a great woman - but the reality is, men fantasize - A LOT. Like 80% of their day is filled with "fantasy" thinking.

So realize that when a man talks like that, there's an incredibly high likelihood that he was fantasizing at that moment. But there's also a very high likelihood that days later, that will change. So just be mindful of that and keep it all in perspective.

"since I don't know for sure he was being sincere or if this is just a Taurus saying what he thinks I want to hear."

Exactly. And only time will tell the tale - in his ACTIONS, not his WORDS.

"When can I stop worrying about this and just enjoy myself and believe that our feelings are mutual."

When his ACTIONS start to align with his words. When he pursues you, initiates communication, makes time for you, asks you on dates - you're a woman and deep down inside, you know these things ;-)

"I wonder if he will mention moving in together again."

Regardless of his desire to have you do that, you have a child to think about. You can't be uprooting yourself and your child to go zipping around, following some man's "fantasy" - only to have him change his mind 3 months into it and uproot yourself and your child again.

It is my belief that a man and a woman should not even CONSIDER living together until they have dated for one year - straight, no breakups - as a committed couple.

Anything short of that is a disaster waiting to happen.

Because if there's one little fracture, one little thing, that is a "sticking" point in the relationship - living together only MAKES IT WORSE.

It's one thing to date and argue and have spats over issues with one another - but add a living situation on top of it - and it goes wrong fast.

What I mean is, when couples live together, there's MORE to fight and argue about . . socks on the floor, bills to pay, demands for dinner to promptly be served at 5, whose going to run the sweeper this week because this one did it last week.

Get what I mean?

If you compound already existing problems with the minutiae of living together - KERPLEWEE.; January 24, 2013 at 6:06 PM
Anonymous said...: MOA I totally agree with what you're saying here. 1st I would NEVER agree to move in with him right now...this whatever it is is just too new for that and my son's life comes a million miles before mine. Saying yes to something like that isn't even a blip on my radar. Besides I own my home already and I am not looking to sale anytime soon and definitely not without a REAL commitment and all worries expunged. It's 1 thing to date and have insecurities but I would not be willing to take these into a committed relationship let alone living together. I think deep down I felt the same way (that him saying that stuff about the house) was just a knee-jerk reaction to his excitement about the house and having me see it. I'm not offended by that; heck I'm glad he's fantasizing about me that's at least promising that at least right now he sees a future with me. That's why I'm wondering if he'll bring it back up as I'm curious if this was fantasy or something he really wants now. It would help me with some insight on how he feels about me right now. He definitely holds his cards close to his chest. The only reason I think he feels more for me than he lets on is because his friends and family are always telling me how much he talks about me etc. And whenever he's telling me about a friend or family member that is out of state and I say that sounds interesting he always responds don't worry you'll meet him. Finally he just includes me in all his travel plans and he automatically includes himself in my travel plans before I can even invite him. I'm not looking to rush things here as I have my own insecurities with questioning everyones true intentions; I need to overcome before we make it official. I think I drive myself looney with concerns that this is all some sort of sick game and that's a sad condition I picked up from my last relationship that I'm working through. Sigh...I wish I had a crystal ball that I could look into so I would know if I'm headed down the path of destruction. I don't want to wake up 1 year from now soo far gone I can't bare to leave...Been there done that got the tshirt...; January 24, 2013 at 7:30 PM
Anonymous said...: @ VC so let me get this right- you implemented, he sent a text which you didn't respond to right away but when you did, you went full throttle and was at his beck and call again-gave him your full attention and rewarded him with intimacy. umm how is that making him accountable? I don't think that's NC and I am sure he has you figured it out because even if he ignores you or you ignore him by not texting, when he texts, he can get you to do what he wants. Be careful, girl. MOA has a point there about men fantasizing all the time!; January 25, 2013 at 1:23 PM
Anonymous said...: Well I guess that would summarizing it harshly...He doesn't ignore me or disappear like most Taurus men. My issue was when he came home he was super pre-occupied with work and when he was having a hard time he left me in a room to go to sleep without telling me. This bothered me and rather than nagging him about it I decided to put a few days space between us for him to figure it out himself. (3 to be exact). During this time he tried to contact me several times until he just decided to come over on the 3rd day. When he came back on the 3rd day I still didn't give him my full attention until 2 days after that when we went to see the place. My "no contact" was never meant to be 30 days since in my opinion overall he's been consistent and interested (no taurus disappearing). We've never gone more than 3 days without speaking even when there's distance and for as much little stuff as I do for him he returns it with keeping my car maintained, painting my house, general man things like that. I decided to opt for space to make sure I didn't become predictable and give him a reason to feel like i'm all his. As for the intimacy; that's mutual. Its as much my reward as it is his. What I learned from MOA is not to be completely open and giving with this or any guy; that there has to be some work put in and thats what I was doing with my no contact. The fantasizing part doesn't bother me if his fantasies include me...Hell he could have been fantasizing about someone else in that home and that would have bothered me. I fantasize about our future as well so I would need some help understanding why this is a bad thing. I dunno maybe i'm just being naive; if so I'll take that into consideration. Overall he's a good guy, treats me well and we are where we need to be in our relationship. I just don't want it to veer off course if you know what I mean. And by no means do I "do what he wants" just because he sends me a text. I'm not that one dimensional...VC; January 25, 2013 at 6:36 PM
Anonymous said...: meant implemented NC*; January 25, 2013 at 6:44 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @VC,
To clarify on my comment about men fantasizing, it's not that it's a bad thing. Where the warning comes in is when....someone, male or female, is attempting to pass it off as fact. That's the danger zone.

In other words, it's necessary to keep things in perspective - to distinguish fantasy from reality - and to not let the two mesh in such a way that negative results would be produced.

So when a man starts sharing his fantasies like that, it's perfectly acceptable. It's up to the woman to have the skills to distinguish...is this fantasy talk or is this reality?

And the only real way to do so is to watch the mans behavior. Because if its fact, his actions will align with his words.

Just keep it all in perspective ;-); January 25, 2013 at 7:02 PM
Anonymous said...: OK Thanks for clarifying MOA; i was beginning to think I was insane for not understanding why I should be offended by his fantasy. I agree by the way that it's all about perspective. The reality is he never asked me to move in with him, he just made some statements. I'd be crazy to take that as an actual invitation and then become upset when it doesn't come to fruition. Just like I'd think he was a bit off if he actually did ask me to live with him this soon. Right now all I want him to do is fantasize and hopefully we will both know when to make our fantasies a reality. In the meantime I'll be watching those actions like a HAWK!!! As always thanks MOA! I'm sure I'll be back for more advice... (VC); January 25, 2013 at 7:17 PM
Anonymous said...: @VC Sorry for coming off harshly. Best wishes with your relationship! :-); January 25, 2013 at 7:31 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi Mirror,

I wrote on January 23rd at 09:33am and I would appreciate some advice on what to do.. I cant figure him out and I dont know if I should give up or hang in there.. waiting for ur answer..; January 27, 2013 at 10:46 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
I'm not exactly sure what your specific question is. But if you're hanging around waiting for a man to notice you, that's a lost cause.

Continue to move forward with your life. A man that is genuinely interested will seek you out. A man that is only half interested will string you along.; January 27, 2013 at 11:05 AM
Anonymous said...: Hi Mirror,

I read on on one post that A Taurus male will give up his harem if he falls in love at first sight, and until that woman appears he will keep his harem. If she is not the one he would have to look at the pros and cons of her to see if she is worth giving up the harem. Is this true you think?; January 27, 2013 at 11:37 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
There is some truth to that, however, if you've been in the harem for 4-6 months and he's not giving it up for you - he's never going to.

You will simply become a lifetime member of the harem rather than the chosen one.; January 27, 2013 at 11:43 AM
Anonymous said...: It is sad you know. To think that Taurus males have that affect on women that sometimes they are depressed. I know a few women who told me they feel they can't "live without him". Wow do Taurus males want women to be dependent on them to the point that they feel the world stops when he is not loving them? Yes we all know about bad boys but I think Taurus males are the king of bad boys. What do you think Mirror?; January 28, 2013 at 6:30 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
I think all men have "bad boy" in them, because all men have ego. And Taurus men want to be admired and worshiped to an extent - that's how they feed their ego.; January 29, 2013 at 8:47 AM
Anonymous said...: Hey people. I am a taurus libra man. Many things are explained well above. I will try to give you another point of view. First off all, even if i like a girl very very much, I wont make an open move until i feel that girl likes me. Everytime its the same... I need to be sure. I always try to be kind towards people. Its not only for women. I do not express my feelings verbally if i'm not asked. Sometimes not even when i'm asked. None of my relations started on a whim. They have always took their time. I always try to get to know that person better. When i find myself attracted to a girl, I try to spend more time around her without making my intentions open. When i truly love someone, there can be no other girls. Trust me. Also if i somehow find out a side that i dont like of her, i will just close myself emotionally. It happens so fast that even i cant believe how much i liked her before. It has been said that taurus man wont call you back for a long time. Well there can be various reasons for that. I believe we have things to get in order in our lives and we don't want to bother you with that. When we are with you we don't want to be bothered or bother you by our problems thus we can give all our attention to you. Don't be paranoid that we are running after other girls.(I cannot say that for every taurus but probably some of them are like me.) It has been all said. We want to make you feel secure. I know you may want to share everything. But most taurus wont share some deepest feelings( by that i mean some negative feelings about ourselves ) with you. It's because I believe we need to overcome all the obstacles in life by themselves. (not the best behavior i guess but cant help it...) So in the end all i can say is that i believe i am bound to die alone with all my sufferings, most of them not shared. But still there is hope. I believe i changed throughout the years slowly and i can express my feelings better but still there are much to tell. so help them speak but do not push them. Show them how to express their feelings so maybe they will get better at it.; January 29, 2013 at 11:24 PM
Timeless said...: Mirror

Hello, I'm new to this site and this article is very interesting. I have a question for you. A Taurus that I like way back was playing around, with alot of women and he wanted to sleep with me but I said no cause I didn't know him that well. He disappeared on me and I stared a rebound relationship where that guy ask me to marry him. I said yes but it didn't work out. I reach out to my bull just to make amends and told him that I was going to get married to another guy but I didn't. He said he was sorry that he didn't want to marry me. I said thats ok, just want to be single. About a month later he changed his Facebook status to Married, and he talks about having a wife to other people. Mirror I don't understand this. We are not in contact but I have a feeling he looks at my FB alot. Why is he talking about marriage all of a sudden when I mention it? He was a player now he wants to change. Please give me some insight. Thanks.; January 31, 2013 at 11:02 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Timeless,
Yes, sometimes this happens. Everyone picks their spouse carefully and in his case, regretfully, he did not see a future with you for whatever reason :-( And he may have already been involved with his soon-to-be wife at that time as well.

And apparently, he's not talking about marriage - apparently, he's actually gotten married.

Even a player will attempt to settle down someday. Not all of them, but yes, some of them will. Whether it works out or not is another story though.

At this point, I'd move on and not dwell on it. What's done is done and you have no control over the situation.; February 1, 2013 at 8:26 AM
Timeless said...: Oh no. I'm so sorry, I miss communicated. He is single. He is not married. What I meant to say was he was saying he talks about getting married and having a wife someday. On his FB he had it on married then two weeks later he changed to single. So I was wondering what it all meant. sorry; February 1, 2013 at 1:10 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Timeless,
Well in that case, it's simply a man playing head games - attempting to get a reaction ;-); February 1, 2013 at 4:48 PM
Anonymous said...: taurus man - negative self absorbed liar - careful you don't get suckered into believing he's not - 'cos they are charmers; February 1, 2013 at 5:04 PM
Anonymous said...: Mirror, a Taurus man is the "Come hither" kind of guy and you said in the article "A Taurus man will somehow manage to draw those people or relationships to him. And our Taurus males, in particular, are very good at doing so." How does he do this? And how long will he wait for his love interest to reveal herself to him? Will he wait years? This is interesting.; February 1, 2013 at 9:13 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
"How does he do this?"

I explained in the article how it usually takes place:

"A Taurus man will place himself into environments where these situations are more likely to happen and he'll simply sit back and wait. He'll show up time and time again and do this repeatedly until he finally achieves the rapport he's been attempting to build. All the while, he'll be acting coy and clueless in an attempt to disarm you of any agenda you may think he has.

You see, for our Taurus male, that IS his agenda. . . .to disarm you (especially women) and make you think he has no agenda. He wants you to relax and feel comfortable around him, not threatened. And in order to do this he realizes that he must repeatedly make his presence known time and time again so that those around him drop their guard.

And once your comfortable and your walls are down, that's when the real work begins. His plan is now in motion and it'll brew at such a slow and steady pace that you'll be none-the-wiser."

"And how long will he wait for his love interest to reveal herself to him?"

As long as it takes for him to be successful. Be it days, weeks, months or even years. He will cultivate the situation until it's time to strike.; February 2, 2013 at 10:47 AM
Anonymous said...: pisces woman talking to a taurus male . He told me he knows i care for him and i asked him how he knew his answer was the way i talk to him . but the funny thing is he said but if u dont its ok i can't make you . Huuum wonder what he was saying MOA help please; February 2, 2013 at 12:49 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
He's attempting to disarm you:

"You see, for our Taurus male, that IS his agenda. . . .to disarm you (especially women) and make you think he has no agenda. He wants you to relax and feel comfortable around him, not threatened."; February 2, 2013 at 12:56 PM
Anonymous said...: Wow so a he will wait years for his love interest to show feeling for him? He must be very confident for him to wait that long. So he is sure of himself that she will come to him first? That makes me think that he thinks about her all those years as well.; February 2, 2013 at 7:17 PM
Anonymous said...: This is the Virgo Female who last posted on Jan 9th. It has been almost one month since my last post.
The Taurus guy has recently told everyone that they had been "official". And he still wants my WhatsApp account, my facebook accounts, my pictures over the holidays...He even grabed another friend's cell, went through his text history with me and texted me back. I ever joked and asked what does he do differently after being in an official relationship. He kept quite.
He had been texting his official gf at the bar and all of a sudden, he said to everybody, the gf asked where he is that time and said she was hoping to see him. Then he started complain, saying he went to see her the day before yesterday, last night, and she wanted to see him again that night. So I said he could leave us right away. But he didn't.
I used to think when two people just started, both sides make effort to see each other as much as possible. All my ex or any guy that I dated tried to see me everyday and do things together (not the bed thing). If both sides understand that each other has some hobbies that the other side cannot enjoy doing, some space could be saved. Sometimes, when I see my friends being with their gf/bf everyday, I do think it a little excessive. Once, a girl friend's boyfriend who ever wanted to cheat with me, told me that they were NOT "together much".
And this Taurus guy, to what I knew, before his two nights in a row visiting his gf, he went out of town and didn't see the gf for 5 days.
I think my question here is a little general, in a healthy relationship, normally how often do both side see each other? If at his gf's position, whether asking to see the bf three days in a row in an "official" relationship is considered clingy?; February 3, 2013 at 11:06 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
I think once or twice a week in the early stages of a relationship is healthy. I don't think seeing each other every day is wise. All that does is make the relationship burn out faster. Men need space and being independent makes them feel manly. Smothering a man and attempting to dominate his time is not wise.

If a man needs space and a woman is attempting to dominate his time, he will pull away from her. Women always think it's wise to see each other daily, but what they don't realize is that men do NOT feel the same way.

Men like to miss their woman, men like to spend time with their friends, men like to do things independently, men like space. And if you like a man - it's wise to give him what he wants and needs from time to time - which is plenty of space.; February 4, 2013 at 8:47 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Need to Know,
He may know who you are..I wouldn't do that again.; February 4, 2013 at 8:12 PM
Need to know said...: How does he know it's me? Taurus males are that good?; February 4, 2013 at 8:37 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Need to Know,
You provided a lot of detail in that story...men aren't stupid, LOL ;-); February 4, 2013 at 8:43 PM
Need to know said...: So he knows I have feelings for him Mirror? He didn't delete me from the fake profile. What is he trying to do?; February 4, 2013 at 8:45 PM
Anonymous said...: @Needtoknow and Mirror,

Was Needtoknow's story published? I can't find it.; February 5, 2013 at 7:47 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
No, I could not publish her story. There was too much identifying personal information in it.

@Need to Know,
No, I never said he has feelings for you. All I said is that he isn't stupid and most likely knows who you are. I wouldn't do that again as it may appear desperate and manipulative to a man.

And when you ask what's he trying to do - LOL - he's not doing anything because it's YOU contacting HIM, LOL. He's simply talking to you.; February 5, 2013 at 8:04 AM
Anonymous said...: MY TAURUS DRAMA, (Me libra)
Hello Mirror,
I’ve been on and off with a Taurus male for 4 yrs. -_- I KNOW. Anyway, actually the way we met was completely the opposite of what you wrote. I made HIM come to ME. I always do. I unlike Taurus WILL NOT approach the opposite sex simply BECAUSE I hate rejection of any sort. I cant stand it. So when I first saw him he was in a conversation with a friend of mines but he had his back turned towards me, we were in college. He was 18 I was 19 turning 20. I asked her if she was coming to my party (I hadn’t even noticed him yet) until he spun around a butted right into our conversation and said “I’m coming, can I come.” I just stared at him for a minute (He was gorgeous, and I don’t mean that as an understatement the man was FIONE!) I laughed, and so did my friend, she said goes “Naw, she don’t know you and she don’t want lames at her party.” I knew then that they knew each other. He laughed and faced me, like “Do YOU want me to come to YOUR party.” I told him sure, I didn’t care. I told my girl I’d catch her later and calmly walked out the café, only to rush to the student lounge to find out exactly who he was from my sources lol.

Ever since that day I started seeing him around campus a lot more. I concluded he must’ve been there all along and I just never noticed him until then. I mastered down the days I knew I would have to walk past him. Each day it seemed like the crowd of women around him grew larger. Which definitely help me make a choice NOT to approach him. I wanted to stand out and I did. Anyway, I’d get dressed in my best on those days and I’d give him enough eye contact to let him know I was interested, sometimes even a smile he’d even smile back but I never approached him. I’d keep walking. Sometimes I’d pretend to not even see him standing there, like I was rushing to class or something.lol. Until one day, he got tired (like I predicted) and looked me up on Facebook. I knew he had to really search for me because my name is really hard on Facebook, I have it that way on purpose in case creeps try to search me they cant. But Taurus found me.

We chatted back and forth for about 2 days, until he asked for my number. Then we talked on the phone all day from sun up until sun down for 24 hrs until he asked to see me. After that, things went pretty fast. He was calling me all day every day and I called him. We texted during class, and saw each other after class. We did our homework together, we ate together and sometimes he’d fall asleep in my room holding me (no sex) and then out of nowhere he asked to make me his girl. I said yes. We were official after 1 week of him asking for my number. (That’s what HE told ME) Later, what I found out was that’s not what he was telling everyone else. He was telling everyone else we were just talking. Of course I didn’t find this out until 5 months of us dating. It made since because we would argue because we hadn’t been on a date. I wanted to go but he kept saying lets take it slow. I’d get pissed and there goes the argument. By this time yes I’d already given up the goodies. He was my boyfriend to my knowledge of what he was telling me when I gave it up..; February 5, 2013 at 12:45 PM
Anonymous said...: My Taurus Drama Continued...

Another thing that sent my head spinning is when he started telling me he loves me. I said it back and I meant it. Things were good. But out of nowhere he changed. The calls stopped. The sweet cute little text messages while I was at work and in class came to a halt, until he eventually didn’t call or text me for 2 days. After the 2nd day I dumped him. I told him to come grab his shit, or I will leave it at the front desk at his dorm and that he could play games by himself. He got mad, made status’s about me we didn’t speak for a whole week. One day during Christmas break I called him. I told him I missed him and I loved him and wanted to wish him a Happy New Yr and Merry Christmas. He said same to me, and he loved me too. We didn’t speak again until we got back to school. We started making up, and things were cool until I went on his Facebook page and saw some girl writing all over his wall. In the past, if girls wrote mushy stuff on his wall he’d delete it, but her’s he let stay. I asked him about her he said that SHE liked HIM and he only spoke to her once over Christmas break. (They met through a group of friends) Anyway long story short I wound up finding out that he liked her back and they were kicking it, hard. Telling each other they love each other and all. We ended up falling out big time. He and I weren’t officially back together when it happen and he didn’t make things official with her for another 3 months, but at the time I had never had my heart broken or even been dumped before so I didn’t know what to think or how to act. I completely shut down. I didn’t eat for days. I slept through my classes and I was a complete wreck. He tried speaking to me I’d shut him down and tell him I hate him. One day after 3 months of not speaking to him I reached out to tell him I don’t hate him. He wrote telling me how much he loved me and how sorry he was for hurting me and that if he never got another chance he’d understand but he wanted me to know he really does love me.

Like a sucker I fell for it, and got sucked right back in. He got back on my good side, but I later found out it was only because he and her were breaking up left and right. She got his name tatted on her hand and everything. She wans’t even cuter than me, and she was younger than me with a 2 yr old. I was pissed that he downgraded from me too. He was completely different with her. He cursed and drank around her, and would call her a bitch and she would call him one, but with me he’d excuse himself for cursing even if he wasn’t talking to me. I never required this of him, he just did it. He never drank or went to parties when we were involved, but with her he did. I later found out he cheated on her the whole time they were together. O_0. BUT he bought her a promise ring. I cried my eyes out when I found out, and after that I was done for about 2 yrs. He’d check on me I’d answer with no feeling because I honestly had lost interest. Once my feelings were out of the picture we became cool as hell. It was weird. LOL. Then he got with another girl, I wasn’t mad because I seen it coming plus he and I were just cool. I thought she was very pretty and smart. I liked her for him. That’s weird to say, but when you truly love someone whether they are with you or not, you wish them the best.; February 5, 2013 at 12:46 PM
Anonymous said...: Continued...

Anyway when he got with her he stopped all communication with me. I was confused because I never once tried to come on to him. Or text him or anything. But he deleted me on facebook and everything. When we were together I wrote him a long love letter, and attached my picture to it. As far as I know he still has it. Anyway they stayed together for about 2 yrs, he and I stayed friends, but VERY brief communication. As soon as they broke up last Feburary he wrote me telling me how much he missed me and what not. I asked him why he dropped all communication like that, and he said because he told her about me. He told her that we were now just friends but she wasn’t having it and that they often got into about my picture and she was very insecure about me. At this point I had pretty much learned his routine. This man does not like to be alone. I loved him, always have but I promised myself I keep my heart at a distance until he pulled all the stops for me. Well, he got his own apartment, sometimes he’d give me the key I’d cook for him he’d come home we’d watch movies and cuddle and laugh. He started telling his friends he’d rather stay home with me and they would tease him, but he did anyway. We spent his birthday at his apartment and when it came at 12:00am we kissed. All was good for about 5 months. I knew it would’nt last. Next thing I knew another female hit the scene and his whole demeanor changed. They never went together but still. He’s still single, but I went off on him and told him I’m tired of playing games with him and I’m done. I mean it this time.

I deleted HIM off of everything, and I refused to give into his “I miss you” text, and whatnot. I haven’t heard from him in about a month. He’s still single, and according to his tweets he doesn’t plan on being with anyone because he has goals he wants to achieve first. BLAHHAHAH! Anyway, Mirror I guess I’m asking what do you make of this situation and this Taurus. I’ve shut him down, and yes I’ve went off on him countless times (showing my emotions, bad thing I know) but I’m not like that with any other guy. I don’t know if it’s because he was my first true heartbreak or what, but he says I’m mean to him, but he knows he deserves it. He says I’m so good for him, but he so used to bad that good sort of scares him. I don’t want him thinking I’m a jealous girl. That’s not the case. I don’t care if he talks to other girls, I care that he’s taken some of them out (His excuse is THEY pay their own way) I honesly don’t care, I get pissed that he made time to go out with them period. (Jealous huh) lol. I don’t know. Just let me know what you think. Sorry for this insanely long email. Don’t kill me. lol; February 5, 2013 at 12:47 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
He's a big time player sweetie. You'd be wise to rid yourself of him. He's already shown you his character:

liar
cheat
playboy

Those aren't the qualities a good man that's marriage material has. I wouldn't trust this man for as far as I could spit. Chances are he simply tells women what he thinks they want to hear so he can have his cake and eat it too.

Don't ignore the red flags here by simply focusing on the one or two teensy good things about him - because the big picture indicates - he's a liar, cheat and a womanizer.

Don't become one of his victims again and don't give him the benefit of the doubt. He doesn't deserve it nor has he earned it.; February 5, 2013 at 5:34 PM
Anonymous said...: I am a Cancer. My life long best friend is a Taurus.
I have seen the good & evil in this guy.
Let me tell you, I have practically been his life-long freakin' wife- but we never dated. Almost all his ex girlfriends look wayyy too much like me (my own parents have mistakened his gf for me, terrifying).
We are nearly 30 years old, he is dating my evil clone (seriously, she puts him down all the time and thinks he's corny) and hates her now.
About 5 years ago we got pretty much blackout drunk & had a 1 night stand. He pushed me away, I'm clueless as to why...
So very long story short, I've spent nearly my entire life being his emotional wife while he dated girls who look like me- only to be rejected by him- and now that THIS relationship with another one of my look-a-likes is falling apart he wants me back in his life.
To worship him.

Get me straight, I don't believe in horoscopes, but the personality traits are dead-on. It's unbelievable. Beware of these men. They are truly a stereotypical man in so many areas.

They can be the sweetest men, or the biggest users for you to fill their void of an emotional crutch.
That's all I am to this guy- an emotional crutch. Used up, thrown out, and retrieved from the garbage pail of his mind when his life falls apart again.
Needless to say, this time around I'm not going to be so accessible.; February 6, 2013 at 3:55 AM
CuddlyKittyKat said...: All the bad things and trickery lead up before marriage to "conquer" what he wanted... all perfectly my 15 yrs with what I consider a very evil man. His lack of clarity got him dubbed by others he doesn't care about as sketchy and he was always hiding female "friends" in the wings. So many lies, so much strategy, and if I ever didn't worship him, he made my life a living hell. I never believed much in astrology, but reading your perfect description of my husband just sold me! I know everyone has two sides, but I have never seen a better explanation for all the torture I was put through. Wow...; February 7, 2013 at 6:07 PM
Anonymous said...: Why does my Taurus male attack me every time I do something he doesn't like? No matter how insignificant or benign, he turns on me so suddenly and with such venom that I hardly recognise him. One extreme to the other so quick that I cannot stop him. Then follows days of ignoring me and giving me the cold shoulder - very cold. I can do something which I rgard as kind. But if he regards it as anything remotely negative, he digs in and prepares for battle. Unless I say sorry and fall at his feet - which seems unfair if I have not really done anything wrong!; February 9, 2013 at 2:56 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Well, Taurus individuals have a notorious temper. And I'm not just talking temper here, I'm talking rage. Literally, they can see red, just like the bull in the ring with the man waving the red flag.

Imagine a peaceful bull grazing in a field of green grass. La, la, la . . so peaceful and serene. Then picture someone marching out onto that field of green grass - and poking that bull in the ass.

Chargggeeee!

It's on. If you make it to the fence before the bull, consider yourself lucky. Chances are a bull seeing red will just plow right through the fence and barrel down on you anyway though. There's no escape, LOL.

Trust me on this. I'm a Taurus and yes, it takes a lot to push my buttons. I can tolerate more than the average human being a lot of times. But once someone has gone and pushed m that far, chances are they deserve what they're about to receive.

But as I've gotten older, I've learned that there's much value in the phrase, "pick your battles." Otherwise, bulls would be raging all day long over petty, trivial things, LOL.

However, an emotionally immature Taurus or a young Taurus - they may not have figured out how to control their temper and those feelings. So it could be that they wrestle with it and it rears it's ugly head without warning at strange times. Because it's always there.

Sounds to me like he can't control it and instead - he focuses on controlling others. When he should be looking to himself and learning how to control himself instead of the people around him.; February 9, 2013 at 9:29 AM
AnonWoman said...: Mirror,

Do you fancy Capricorn men? I see you don't have an 'Experience with Capricorn' article so I'm writing this on the next best thing that's also an earth sign.

As a Virgo, I find Capricorn men very, very boring. Strange as earth signs are supposed to all gel. I just seem to really fancy Taurus or Aries mainly. Sometimes Cancer or Scorpio. But only Aries and Taurus enough to go out with. Capricorns, yawn, they are so frigging boring. Just had a phone chat with one before arranging to meet him on Sunday. I'm so glad, as now I am going to cancel the date!

I wonder if you don't have an experiences with Capricorn article, but Capricorn's don't play games as they are so boring, so no article is required LOL. (I do know a lot of them have sex addictions though, so that's kinda a good thing....I guess cos their personalities are so boring, sex is perhaps the only thing that spices up their lives LOL); February 12, 2013 at 4:57 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @AnonWoman,
I simply haven't had time to write in-depth observations about all of the signs of the zodiac as of yet.

With all of the questions I answer here daily and working a full time job on top of it - I find my time more limited to do such things.

It's my intention to get there someday, however.; February 12, 2013 at 5:37 PM
AnonWoman said...: You work full time and are an Editor of this site as well. Wow, that is incredible. Bloomin' heck, what an achievement. I'm not fussed personally about reading about Capi's - as I say, I find them dull. Have a good night and take care.; February 12, 2013 at 5:50 PM
Anonymous said...: Going through some of the posts, it is really funny to see that many Virgo women interested in Taurus. I feel that as an earth sign, we Virgo somehow fall more for earth signs, is it destiny?
When I looked back, it is so surprising that all men that I fell for are of earth signs. But I used to think I would never like a Taurus cuz they are stubborn, until the last one. And the only one ever played games on me. And I found that even though Taurus does not plan to develop an intimate relationship with you, he does everything to draw your attention and want you to worship him - he wants to see you care for him, you being disappointed if he does not return your call or messages.
And as for the description of "it takes a lot to push my buttons". I heard something similar from the Taurus male. But I also found the "a lot" could simply be any sign that you don't worship him, you don't like him, including you not caring that he didn't return your call.
@MOA, is this trait that I noticed a common thing among all Taurus men or just the one I ever experienced.; February 12, 2013 at 11:13 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Well, there is a "worship" factor or concept I guess, associated with the sign of Taurus. But men and women of the sign will display it differently.

With Taurus women, it's displayed as a desire to be "cherished" by a man - to be valuable to him and recognized as such. With a Taurus man, it's displayed as "worship" in the true sense. A Taurus man likes to have many female admirers and he enjoys "worship" from them all. Whereas a female Taurus doesn't demand to be worshipped, she simply wishes to be "cherished" by a man as valuable to him.

But yes, the "worship" energy is there, present in the sign. And yes, Earth signs tend to be attracted to the stability of other Earth signs.; February 13, 2013 at 5:38 PM
Anonymous said...: @MOA, I think not only Taurus women, all women desire to be "cherished" by the man they care for.

And I went through the article on mind games, and solutions to different possibilities. I am not that experienced with telling which possibility it is. For example, if the guy flirts with other women in front of you, how can you know whether he is asking for your love, wants to make you jealous so that you become one in his dating harem, or indicating that he's not interested in you at all? Any tips?; February 13, 2013 at 10:44 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
You have to spend time with them, take it very slow and observe their behavior. You can't make a decision simply based on one or two things...you have to actually take the time to get to know someone.

If you don't sleep with a man right away, you have time to observe his behavior and make a decision based on his actions over the course of weeks or a month or two.; February 14, 2013 at 12:50 AM
Anonymous said...: hello MOA i have been talking to this taurus male for more than two yrs now. for the past month he has made time for us to spend together at my house .Well yesterday was lunch day but i desided not to have him over because i have a son who has been smelling him self alot . He do know how my son has been acting and would sit down and have talks with him funny thing is my son respect him and listens well. ok back to the lunch . I told him to meet me some where and he did but when i got there he said to me "o you dont want me to come to your house"i said"No you are welcome its just im upset with my son and didnt want you to come over at that time" He listen to what i had to say and said"Next week im coming over" my mouth droped as if he was running something i couldn't understand but i belive he enjoys comeing over with us it took him more than two yrs to even deside to see me once a week . he never tell me whats on his mind. i kinda belive he is looking to see if its some one else im not sure. MOA i need your help with this one; February 14, 2013 at 10:11 PM
Sista'Taurus said...: @All the ladies here

I found this letter written by a Taurus male on an astrology website,asking for assistance.I thought many of you here,dealing with a Taurus would appreciate reading and perhaps catch a glimpse of your own guy somewhere there,or the potential/undercurrents of their personality.

"I'm a male Taurus, born on the 6th May 1985. I feel like I may have fallen in love with a female Virgo, born on the 20th September 1989. I think she has feelings for me too, but she's holding back.

She never really discusses her feelings, and when we're apart she can be aloof and distant, and yet when we are physically together there is a genuine warmth between us. Am I lying to myself?

I also worry that she has feelings for someone else, who she isn't telling me about. Right now she's suffering from a health problem, and I'm trying to be there for her and show my support, but again, she's keeping me at a distance.

From the first moment I saw her, I thought that I had found the love of my life. I had a girlfriend at the time, but we have since broken up (she is a Libra, born on the 19th October 1986). I feel like I just can't let this girl go, like I won't ever find anyone like her again. Am I wasting my time?"

So,it appears,Taurus males also feel insecure.Any man does at a given point.End of the day,we are all human.; February 15, 2013 at 8:47 AM
Anonymous said...: Wow. Your article gave me a lot of clarity! Thank you. I am a Pisces. And this was my first relationship with a Taurus man which ended very sour. I am still very much confused as to what really happened between us and why. This is my story. We met online, through Facebook. I have a personal/business account and I often add random people, mutual friends, to advertise my company. So, randomly, I added him. He accepted my request and started chatting with me. I was being nice but nothing more. He was starting to get flirty and even asked me out. I ignored him. He then added me to my personal account and I accepted. I put him on a limited one, just to be nice. Then,; February 16, 2013 at 8:58 PM
Anonymous said...: Is "moody" a proper word to give to Taurus man? Although they may not easily go red, they could easily be disturbed emotionally by some trivial things and acts wired afterward. Could they seem happy but indeed pessimistic?; February 16, 2013 at 9:35 PM
Anonymous said...: Continued: eventually we went on a date. The date went well. We decided to have a second date in a couple of days. But he started texting me non stop and I took him as a psycho. I mean, we've just met! And he started accusing me of being cold hearted and distant. At that point I decided not to waste time on him. He continued to text me and I would just ignore his texts. On new years, he invited me to a party. The week after, he invited me to Vegas for long weekend. Week after he invited me to Napa Valley, then Hawaii... I felt bad, and thought maybe I'll give him another chance. Plus, to be honest, I couldn't resist all those invites. So when said Hawaii, I finally caved in! We went on few sates before the trip and I really started to like him more and more- partly because I couldn't wait to go to Hawaii with him! Trip was amazing!!! Chemistry was there. Sex was much better than I ever hoped it would be. Probably one of the best I've ever had. Then, after 3 days in Hawaii,; February 16, 2013 at 9:43 PM
Anonymous said...: Continued (2) Then, after 3 days in Hawaii, he started getting really distant. He would want to spend more timd alone. He would be by the pool while I was on the beach, etc. Then after 5 days of the trip it became even worse. We would barely see each other. We would even eat lunch and dinner separately. I was starting to get really confused. Here I was falling head over heels for this guy and he was clearly trying to avoid me. Just to be clear- this had never happened to me before. I'm known to be a player myself. However when I'm playing I don't make false promises. I tell the guy I'm with upfront that I'm not looking for anything serious. I would hate to break someone's heart. Here, on the other hand, I had a guy who promised md the world.; February 16, 2013 at 9:52 PM
Anonymous said...: Continued 4... He promised me the world, he would talk about us getting married and having kids together. And for the first time, I let go. U really baught everything he told me. And just like that, he broke my heart and dissappeared on me as soon as our Hawaii vacation ended! I was never so confused about anything in my life- until I read this article! Now e wry thing makes sense. He probably didn't mean to break my heart. He was more concerned about making me fall for him and idolized him. And then, when I was, he was over me. By the way, another shocker is- I found some half naked pics of girls in Hawaii with him! He cheated on me while on vacation! Crazy right? Yes we were. It officially together but still who does that?!; February 16, 2013 at 9:56 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Feb. 16, 9:56PM,
Ugh. Honey, when something sounds too good to be true - that usually means it isn't :-(

When a guy comes on strong like that in the beginning, it's a red flag. None of what he was doing or saying is authentic at that point. It takes men a long time to develop real feelings for a woman. When they're living in "fantasy land" like that in the beginning. . . with the marriage and kids talk and all the vacation invites - that's exactly what that is - "fantasy land."

Men fantasize more than two thirds of their day away, LOL. As women, you can't get caught up in that. It's the equivalent of a man BS'ing you into bed by telling you what he thinks you want to hear.

And this one here . . . he strikes me as a pro. He's a professional womanizer. And his behavior on that trip is proof of that. He's well-skilled in what he does and it wouldn't surprise me if one or some of the other women swirling around him on that trip - wouldn't surprise me at all if he had somehow already been in touch with them prior to the trip somehow (online) and that's why that was one of his destination choices (because he had a "Plan B" there if things didn't work out.)

Don't ever speak to this cretin again. He's a creep. Don't beat yourself up for it, simply chalk it up as a lesson learned and don't ever look back.; February 17, 2013 at 10:22 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Feb. 16, 9:35AM,
I think they're moody when worship levels from others are not meeting their lofty expectations. Then annoyance sets in on their part LOL ;-); February 17, 2013 at 10:29 AM
Anonymous said...: Hello Mirror, perhaps my problem is silly in comparison with many others here. I´ve met a Taurus online. We´ve been in regular contact for 3 months now, no sex yet just some kisses. I am an intellectual kind of woman, he is practical. The problem is that he has a lot of practical expectations of me. I should be like this, I should be like that, I should do this and I should do that. On the other side, I, as an independent woman, don´t have any specific expectations of him, apart from respect and love, of course, because I just appreciate that we are together. What do you think about this? I am writing to ask because I sometimes feel pressurized by him to fulfil his expectations, while I don´t ask much from him as I believe that it´s good to let him breathe freely. Any comments? I´ll appreciate anything you´ll write.; February 17, 2013 at 2:35 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Well, he's projecting his expectations on you. Not necessarily a good thing - but only if he doesn't hold it against you that you don't meet them. Because if he does . . . then this isn't a match :-(

It's one thing to share your expectations with others but it's another to punish them for not living up to them. Because rather than punish someone for that - the proper thing to do is end it and realize it isn't a match.

However, if he can live with the differences and you're both still happy, then that's acceptable.

Just don't try to beat yourself up jumping through the high hoops he's set for you attempting to live up to those expectations. If they'll help you in some manner, then by all means strive to meet them as that's a positive thing.

But if it ends up that you try, try and try and just cannot please the man or live up to the expectations he has - then it's best to end it.; February 17, 2013 at 6:44 PM
Anonymous said...: Thanks very much for your sound advice! Good luck!; February 19, 2013 at 11:10 AM
Anonymous said...: Hey MOA,
There hasnt been any action in a few days so i guess i'll post my story/questions.

I met a taurus through mutual friends a few months ago, we went out on a few dates he was very nice & sweet but extremely touchy/feely (even on our first date) i rejected all his sexual offers so we never had sex. I noticed him starting to call and text me more frequently after our 4th date, i then decided to come clean to and let him know i was still kinda envolved with my ex the relationship was rocky and could in at any moment.

He wasnt too happy about the news, he said he appreciated my honesty but he didnt want to be envolved in a love triangle and that was it...i havent heard from him in about 3 months, ive since gotten rid of my ex for good and i dont know if i should reach out to my taurus to let him know (Im quite sure he knows cause we share mutual friends and im sure they have told him) or if he's still even interested in me. MOA do you have any suggestions for me??; February 26, 2013 at 3:19 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Well, if you're pretty sure he already knows, I'm not sure there's much else to do. If he's interested, he'll step forward. You could consider friending him on a social site...but that's about as far as I'd go with it. I wouldn't pursue him, I'd let him come to me.; February 26, 2013 at 3:56 PM
Anonymous said...: The taurus male will start to withdraw right before its over. Ladies, this is the first sign - don't ignore it! The calls will become scarce and conversations short. He will stop making plans with you. It's over.

He'd like to disappear and hopes you will, too. If you're a gal who believes in NOT initiating contact, this will be easy for him to do. You can choose to let it die this way or ask to meet/chat. When you talk, let him be honest. Taurus men are generally honest and if his words don't tell you anything, his actions will. Tell him that you need to go no contact. He will agree, and I have found that having the conversation really helped the excruciating NC process.

In my experience with the taurus, he disappeared for 10 days. I had never been the one to initiate contact, but asked if he could talk after 10 days of silence (much building up to the withdrawal). He asked me to come over and cooked me dinner. Upon this meeting, we mutually agreed not to speak anymore as he did not want a relationship (he was in the process of ending a long term relationship with his girlfriend). It hurt like a mother, but I knew it was the best thing for me.

Prior to this, he was desperately in love me. Pursued me for months and even ended his relationship. I'm a savvy girl and somehow managed to miss (or ignore) all the red flags because we had been friends and I thought I knew him. I trusted him completely. I believed him when he told me loved me and wanted a future with me.
Then he didn't.
It was a complete mindf#%k.

He flipped my life upside down and disappeared. I felt grief as if someone had died. It changed me.
It also revealed his true character, and I knew he could never make me happy - even as intensely as I loved him.

How I'm getting on...

*No contact is crucial. I gave myself one day after the breakup to review all those effing texts and listen to the voicemails. Then I deleted everything. EVERYTHING.

*I threw away anything he left in my home. This was hard.

*I planned a trip for the following weekend. I visited a good friend who lived a few hours away. On this trip, I let my phone die (didn't want to wait for his call or feel the need to incessantly check it). I was a zombie, but getting away was therapeutic.

*I started therapy for the first time in my life (I'm 33). I find that my weekly sessions give me something to look forward to.

*I'm spending a lot of time on my own! It's scary, but I completely lost myself and must discover who I am.

*And, of course, reconnecting with girlfriends, happy hours and exercise.

I am not, however, dating (rare for me). I'm working on regaining trust in myself before I can even consider a relationship. The hardest part of this has been the trust I lost in MYSELF. Admittedly, I don't really have a lot of faith in men right now either.

Everyday gets a bit easier. He has not contacted me but I have made the decision to ignore if he does. Taurus men seem to make up their mind and stick to, so I don't expect anything.

Will date again? Eventually, but I will be weary of the taurus guy.

...I'm a pisces...; February 27, 2013 at 1:51 AM
Anonymous said...: Mirror how come Taurus men make up there mind about someone so quickly? I mean they act like they like you then the next you don't excised. What kind of crap is that? I don't want to feel this way about them but I feel they can be evil, and that's not how you treat a person. I finally gotten over my Taurus but it took years to get over him cause of the spell they put on women. I broke the spell and now I don't think about him anymore but it wasn't easy. I feel like I'm free but from now on I'm going to ask a man his sign so this does not happen to me again.; February 28, 2013 at 10:57 PM
Anonymous said...: Hello Aphrodite, I need your advice. I met A Taurus online, everything started okay, we´ve had about 8 - 10 "innocent" dates, but he talked about sex almost each time. I told him nicely I needed more time. He seemed to accept that but I now fear he has gradually lost interest in me because he might find me too unapproachable. My question is: How to make the man wait for sex without discouraging him completely? What is even worse,I myself have lost that passionate feeling from the beginning of our dating. However, emotionally, I am still not ready to have sex with him because I don´t feel I know him well enough yet and I don´t feel as secure with him as I imagine I could. What do you think I should do now? Have I stopped the development of our relationship by rejecting his sexual advances? Thanks for any suggestions.; March 4, 2013 at 2:23 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
"Have I stopped the development of our relationship by rejecting his sexual advances?"

Nope. He has - by pressuring you. He has ruined the momentum by applying sexual pressure instead of letting things happen organically, naturally as they should.

Not your fault - his.

"He seemed to accept that but I now fear he has gradually lost interest in me because he might find me too unapproachable."

If that's the case, it wasn't because you're unapproachable - it's because all he wanted was free and easy sex and now, he realizes it isn't going to be easy.

"How to make the man wait for sex without discouraging him completely?"

Never provide them with TMI - too much information. It's none of his business at this point. For instance, instead of this, "I told him nicely I needed more time."

Something like this is fine, "Well, we'll have to see how things go." Or, "Yea, someday that'd be nice."

Keep him guessing. Your deadlines or your "rules" for dating are none of his business. Rather, be vague and elusive on the matter. That way, he'll keep working at it - thinking it might be just around the corner (even if you know it's not, LOL ;-); March 4, 2013 at 6:26 PM
Anonymous said...: Thanks for your advice. I have a follow-up question: After some painful experience with jerks I became super cautious with men. Which has led to me postponing sex for as long as possible. Naturally, men become impatient and give up. I don´t care much about it because at this point in my life my priority is not to feel hurt, abused and abondened anymore. My question is: Do you think the best way is to wait until the man expresses his love feelings and only after that to agree to sex? Or is it too old-fashioned? I am afraid that I will put off all men if I act like this. Actually, I have so far. What´s your opinion?; March 5, 2013 at 12:41 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Well, that's up to you dear. Meaning, hold to your standards and whatever is best for YOU.

It's okay to have sex before a man falls in love, as long as he's working on the relationship and is actively engaged, doing all the right things, being respectful, pursuing you, etc.

But you have to be prepared for the fact that it may not work out in the long run. Sex guarantees nothing. So if you can have sex and know that you'll be okay, even if things don't work out, then it's okay to do so.

However, if you think you'd be emotionally devastated if things didn't work out after having sex prior to falling in love - then don't do it. Don't put yourself through it. Hold to your standards and what's best for you. A genuinely interested man will wait for the reward.; March 5, 2013 at 6:12 PM
Unknown said...: OMG! This article and posts are amazing. I have to agree with all of this. I am a Sag, I met a Taurus man through an online dating site. We are in different states but somehow I managed to fall in love with him over the phone. He had this way of captivating me and would then disappear. Then I would get an "I miss you" text message with the most handsome picture out of the blue. I pursued him like I have never pursued a man before and finally met him after about 8 months. I fell in love with him all over again when I met him for the first time. He dressed nice, he smelled delicious, he was perfect. We had the most perfect date to where we even kissed for hours, outside in the rain---no joke! He never pushed for sex and so we just talked and kissed. When I left to go back home, I would hear from him occasionally. It was very confusing. At times I thought he felt as strongly as I did then there were other times where I just didn't hear from him for weeks. I finally visited him again and spent many more magical moments with him. We made love this time around. This is now 10 months after meeting him online. This Taurus man has got his claws in me and I don't even know how it happened. I feel almost obsessed with him. I think about him every day. I dream about him. I want to move to be near him. But somehow I knew something just wasn't right. I now know that I may be another notch on his belt. Another woman that idolizes him-as was said by someone previously. This back and forth was killing me but I now see that I need to stop pursuing him as I don't really think he is ready for a relationship like he says. Its just so damn hard to let go of thoughts of being with him as he "gets" me and we flow so easily. I told him I wanted to be his wife....How desperate of me but I wanted to see his reaction. He now calls me wifey but he still doesn't call me regularly. I really do believe he likes me as much as I do him. I just don't think he is capable of a relationship at this point....Wow! This post has helped me alot as I was going freaking crazy about this. I love him, but I know that he is not healthy for me right now....Thank you guys!; March 5, 2013 at 8:53 PM
Anonymous said...: Advice please!

He ended things 2 weeks ago because he "does not want to be in a relationship." This after he's been professing his love for months - told me I'm his dream girl, told all his friends he's in love with me, broke up with his girlfriend, met my family, yada yada.

Granted, he is in the process of ending a 3 year relationship (they lived together and she WAS my close friend). He even told her he was in love with me. Her and my relationship was destroyed in this process.

As soon as he moved her out, the withdrawal toward me started and then the eventual "talk."

I never initiated contact in the first place and certainly didn't after we broke things off two weeks ago.

Anyway, he called last night. I didn't answer and he left weird message (nothing that would even evoke a response).

I guess I'm concerned about whether I'll hear from him again. I was surprised that he called because he seemed so sure about ending things and I believed that it was in a Taurus' nature to be absolute in their resolutions.

I know I'm doing the right thing, but still hold out some hope that he'll come around after the dust settles with his split, moving out, etc..

Maybe I just need a reality check. Help!; March 6, 2013 at 12:32 AM
Anonymous said...: Hi MOA, I would like to ask for your opinion. A few weeks ago I met a Taurus online. We both are middle-aged. On the very first date he explained to me his concept of 3 stages of dating, the first meaning dating casually and meeting other people as well, the second stage dating exclusively including sex, the third stage a committed relationship or marriage. He immediately warned me that our meetings might stop in stage one, or they might continue into stage two but not develop into stage three. It was our first date, we were sitting outside in beautiful weather, so I didn´t pay any special attention to his talk. He also told me that I was attractive and that he liked thin blondes, which I am. He also inquired about the number of my sexual partners, to which I was confused as what to say and he said I didn´t have to reply. Then on the following dates he almost always started talking about sex, it always felt to me quite inappropriate, like out of the blue. I tried to change the topic or turned it into a joke, because it felt inappropriate to me, we hardly knew each other. What I want to ask you is that although he repeatedly talked about sex, he never held me by hand, he kissed me just once and half-heartedly!!!, he put his arm around my waist just once!!!, although there definitely were many opportunities to do so more often. How do you perceive this? Doesn´t he find me attractive at all? Or is it because he doesn´t like me as a person, so he would just like to use me for having sex with? Nothing like this has ever happened to me before, men either liked me or not, so i am quite perplexed. Many thanks for your insight.; March 6, 2013 at 2:45 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous, March 6, 2:45PM,
RUN!!!

He has a fear of intimacy and as a result, he seeks meaningless casual sexual affairs - which is why he clearly laid out in advance that he expects you to have NO expectations from him whatsoever. Because the reality is, no woman ever makes it to his stage 3, LOL.

And I don't buy that his stage 2 includes exclusivity. So basically, your first date was stage 1 - and it's over already, LOL.

Date two will be stage 2, where he will express a desire for exclusivity, to get you to sleep with him. But the catch there will be that while he "expressed" exclusivity - he never actually made a firm "commitment."

And he wanted to know the number of sexual partners (VERY inappropriate by the way, VERY) in advance because it's his way of figuring out what the likelihood of you carrying an STD is. (Sick I know.)

He wants SEX - not INTIMACY. Two different things. And men have sex without intimacy everyday (fear of physical/emotional closeness). And men who fear true intimacy are lame in bed. It's very "standoffish" sex (very little kissing, very little eye contact, very little cuddling - very little of everything and they only get as close as they have to, to make it happen if ya' know what I mean, LOL.)

This has absolutely nothing to do with you. This guy has some serious issues dear - RUN.; March 6, 2013 at 5:34 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Mar 6, 12:32 AM,
Honestly, it sounds like everyone here needs some time and space right now. Lots of mixed emotions stem from a complicated situation like this.

Just stand strong and remain calm. Don't reach out to him, give him plenty of time and space to work this out in his head. And I think once he does that, you'll be hearing from him :-); March 7, 2013 at 8:49 AM
Anonymous said...: Hi MOA, thank you for you insight. I will definitely run. I am happy that you have confirmed my feeling that he is very, very weird.; March 7, 2013 at 12:01 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi everyone :) I'm a 20 year old capricorn woman that always seem to be attracted only to taureans. Well we r compatible with virgos, capricorns, scorpions, and pisices and, of course, Taurus. I don't like virgos because they r too selfish, capricorns too boring, scorpions too coincided, and pisices way wy too sensitive for my taste n I jst can't stend them because they r immature n not dependent at all. But Taurus... OH MY MY GOD. They r jst perfect! Funny, out going, smart, patient, sensitive yet masculine, cosy, and realistic n many other great qualities. They r great with detailsvn art n I love art so what can I say. When I say "art" I mean the art of music, acting, drawing, painting, landscaping, sports, cooking, n singing. I'm dating a Taurus man. I think he really fell for me the time I showed him I too had a backbone n ever since, he cand get his hands off me. He appreciates me more n since I feel appreciated, well I appreciate him even more. I like it better when he has 55% of control because I like to feel protected n secure but once I feel that he is abusing his power, I let him know n we balance it again. You know to be honest with all of u, I don't mind the plan B thing because I do it too. I don't cheat, of course n he shouldn't either. Jst in case we don't work out, it is fair that we both move on with our lives n fall in love again. But if we get married than plan B should def b out of the system for good. Unless his a serial killer n wants to keep the plan B so he can get to it after he kills me :o lol. Oh gosh! Ha! Anyways I'm happy with this guy n i truly hop it works ... Wish me luck kids lol :D; March 8, 2013 at 3:11 AM
Anonymous said...: Mirror. Is it true that when a Taurus male knows that your into him he ignores you and be laid back, but once your thoughts of him start to die out he can feel it and try to contact you again? I heard that they get a feeling or something like that someone told me.; March 8, 2013 at 1:23 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Well, since Taurus males like to be adored, ignoring you draws you to them, draws your attention to them. And when you pull back, they notice the lack of attention.; March 8, 2013 at 6:43 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi Miror, i´d like to ask you for an objective viewpoint. I´ve been dating a taurus male for about two months now and i have no idea where i stand with him. He has been relatively consistent, we´ve been meeting once a week, he is polite but not passionate with me at all. At least that´s my perception, but perhaps it´s nothing personal, maybe he´s simply that way with anybody, a reserved type. I even asked him about it once and to my surprise he said that some men have feelings burning inside them and once they pour out it´s like an explosion. I didn´t know whether he was joking or not, I am so clueless about his real feelings. He´s invited me over to his place to "cook" together and i said i will think about it, but he didn´t bring up this topic anymore. Once, I felt there was a more intimate moment and i was sweeter than usual, but he pulled away slightly and i have never tried again. Do you think there´s a chance here for both of us? Should I be more daring? Or should I ask him directly where we are in our relationship - non-relationship? The thing is i, as a woman, am waiting for his moves, but is it possible that he is so passive that he´s waiting for mine? Or does he meet me just because he has nothing better to do? I´m really clueless here and will appreciate any advice. Many thanks and keep doing the good job!; March 9, 2013 at 12:18 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Mar 9, 12:18 PM,
"Should I be more daring? Or should I ask him directly where we are in our relationship - non-relationship?"

No, you should remain calm and patient and give him plenty of space to process his feelings in his own time. If you confront him - he will pull away even more.

"The thing is i, as a woman, am waiting for his moves, but is it possible that he is so passive that he´s waiting for mine?"

No - and his actions when you did advance during the "intimate" only showed you that if you do that again, if you pursue him, he's going to pull back even further.

Two months of casual dating is really nothing in a man's world. Men need more time than women do to process their emotions and they need space and freedom. Women like to rush things along - men generally don't.

If he hasn't expressed any feelings for you by the 4th or 6th month - then he's not going to and at that time, you move on.; March 9, 2013 at 1:25 PM
Anonymous said...: Mirror, thank you for you quick reply. i wrote to you mainly because i am not certain if i don´t contribute to my problem with men, because this is not the first time the man is pulling away. i am independent, quite attractive, but quite reserved, shy and i am afraid not much fun to be with in the beginning stages of relationships with people in general,not only with men. Like some other woman has written,it´s difficult for me to let loose, i only can do it later, when i feel safer in a relationship. So i was wondering if being more "daring" wouldn´t help a little. May i ask if there is anything, any behaviour that would help a little? i just wait for him, shouldn´t i be more active? i am not too happy about this situation as i would like to have more or nothing, not this uncertainty. Don´t you think i should tell him i just want to be friends with him? Maybe it would solve my dilemma and let me free from him...Thank you again for your kindness and time.; March 9, 2013 at 2:31 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
"So i was wondering if being more "daring" wouldn´t help a little. May i ask if there is anything, any behaviour that would help a little?"

There is really nothing you can do to make someone love you or want to be with you. Which is why it's best to only give your attention to men that are genuinely interested.

"i just wait for him, shouldn´t i be more active?"

Active in your own life - yes. Active with him - no. Again, a man is either interested or he's not, and there's nothing a woman can do to make a man love her or want a relationship with her.

The man has to love her for who she is, not for who she attempts to be.

"i am not too happy about this situation as i would like to have more or nothing, not this uncertainty."

That's not how life works sweetie. You can't snap your fingers and have all of your desires instantly met. Uncertainty is a part of dating and it's an important one:

http://www.psmag.com/culture-society/uncertainty-heightens-romantic-attraction-26363/

"Don´t you think i should tell him i just want to be friends with him?"

Why would you lie to him like that? It's clear that you want more than friendship so no, I don't recommend lying to him and giving him a false impression.

"Maybe it would solve my dilemma and let me free from him"

YOU have the power to set yourself free any time you chose to do so dear. HE has nothing to do with that.

It's called "free will" ;-); March 9, 2013 at 2:42 PM
Anonymous said...: To deal with a Taurus, put questions to him about his feelings for you, about the girls he is dating... to get a clear picture of the scenario. If he is unclear or evades your questions, just tell him in his place that you think you have no choice but dump him. In this way he will actively follow you as he is stubborn and jealous man, thinking he can have all women down here.; March 12, 2013 at 1:37 AM
Anonymous said...: Mirror why is it hard to get over a Taurus man than other males signs? Yes it took time to get over other signs but I got over it. With a Taurus I feel like it is taking me longer then it should be. I would have been over it if it was another sign. Please help. Thanks; March 12, 2013 at 9:21 AM
Anonymous said...: hello moa i have been talking to a taurus male for 2.5 yrs now . every time he tell me we are going to do something i look forward to it . but it turns out to be a wishful dream . so every time he do that i disapper on him. well the other day he told me i want every thing my way.but he forgot that he said we would do these things but didnt.He also said he dont understand me. Is that a good thing cuz i will not allow him to treat me this way anymore so we did have plans but this time he didnt say what day. If he change it again im gone for good then he will see that his water me pisces has ran dry; March 16, 2013 at 11:08 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: Anonymous,
Yes, you did the right thing. You're not required to stick around for poor treatment and it's going to be difficult for you to respect this man due to the fact that he continually disappoints you and lets you down.

Hold him accountable for his treatment of you and if it's poor treatment - then walk away.; March 17, 2013 at 9:39 AM
Anonymous said...: thanks moa .so what do you think he ment when he said he don't understand me ? do you think that was good or bad pisces from above; March 17, 2013 at 11:01 PM
I'm Stronger then Before said...: Ladies, the "No Contact" works. I know alot of women are having trouble with Taurus men than any other men. I thought I would Never get over the Taurus that I was in love with cause it was hard to let go, but I realize that I don't deserve the mind games and the headache. The Taurus I was dealing with was collecting alot of women in his harem and the last straw was when I found out he was hanging around his ex and telling her how he feels about her. That hurt like hell and thats when I decided to cut all tides with him for good. I blocked him on FB, tared up his number and promise my self never to be treated like that again. Since the NC rule, my thoughts of him are not as strong as they use to and they are dying out. Sooner or later I'll wake up and say "Oh you know, He is not on my mind" Yes you will think about him but stay in NC and those thoughts will fade away. Remember "Time Heals All Wounds" and there are better guys out there.; March 18, 2013 at 1:52 PM
Anonymous said...: MOA interested to see what you have to say about other sun signs, particularly Aquarius and Pisces. I am happy to say I have moved on from the Taurus who was not sincere in his interest in me.; March 18, 2013 at 4:28 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi MOA, thank you for all your useful advice. I also have one question to ask. I dumped a taurus for disrespect about two months ago but I miss him terribly. I don´t intend to contact him but do you think he might contact me? Do men ever contact woemen after being dumped?; March 20, 2013 at 11:38 AM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous,
Yes, genuinely interested men will make attempts to repair what is broken :-); March 20, 2013 at 4:28 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi MOA, thank you for the answer. Do you believe he will be back eventhough I had a nasty row with him and was real unpleasant, even humiliated him? :-(; March 23, 2013 at 2:44 PM
Anonymous said...: Hello Mirror of Aphrodite, I´ve been searching for information on taurus men and found your great blog.May I turn to you for some advice please?
I dated this taurus man for about five months. We both are divorced, 40+. He never completely disappeared but there were some periods when we didn´t see each other.I entered this relationship very enthusiastically after some time of celibacy but as it progressed and regressed I slowly lost optimism. Maybe I expected too much too soon, I can´t tell for sure, but I was confused as I never knew where I stood with him. He talked about permanent relationship, then hinted we´d be only friends, he was hot and cold, I was clueless. I am not good at talking with men about these things that´s why I waited and gave it some time to develop. I never pushed him in any way. When after five months I still didn´t know what it was about I gave up and broke up with him. He tried and persuaded to continue dating him but I walked away. Four months passed without any contact on either side when he texts me "how are you doing" and suggests meeting. I´m over him already and yet I still feel a little hope it might develop further. My common sense tells me not to dive in the same waters again. Please what is your insight? Would it be foolish to give him another chance? I´ll be grateful for anything you have to say.; March 29, 2013 at 6:03 PM
The Mirror of Aphrodite said...: @Anonymous Mar 29, 6:03 PM,
"Would it be foolish to give him another chance?"

I believe so dear. I mean - you've already given him 5 months of your life and he placed very little effort into moving it forward and sent only mixed signals.

Why waste another 5 months of your life, beating your head against the wall with a man that's already proved himself to be less than admirable?

If you do that, you'll have almost a year of your life wrapped up in a man that's not doing anything to move things forward - and that's a year of your life you cannot get back.; March 30, 2013 at 12:33 PM
Anonymous said...: I've been platonic friends with a Taurus for years, until we started talking on the phone for hours on end, and BAM I am in love with him. It feels like he put a spell on me. Yet, I somehow feel like I'm the one seducing him. He is the sweetest person I've ever met. I'm afraid of hurting him.; April 1, 2013 at 9:03 AM
Anonymous said...: based on my experiences with taurus men, they tend to need attention, are players, and manipulators. they aren't all that great in bed either.; April 3, 2013 at 11:51 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi MoA, I guess I need your help.
I´ve been dating a taurus for about three months. We met on a dating site. On the first few dates he often mentioned sex in a playful way, I presume he was expecting a reaction. I found it too soon so I always playfully changed the topic. He didn´t presssurize me in any way. He touched me in different ways so everything seemed okay. Now after three months he isn´t touching me at all and isn´t bringing up sex either. We still meet regularly, he always asks me out approximately once a week. He doesn´t seem to be interested to see me more often.
I feel we´ve got stuck and nothing is moving on. I don´t know what to do at this point. What is your opinion please? Thanks many times.; April 5, 2013 at 1:21 PM
Anonymous said...: Cancer female here, been with a Taurus male for 11 years, married 7, 1 kid.

He is probably the best and worst man I have been with :)
It's really 50/50.

He is addicted to food and pop.
Likes alcohol. Has cut back now cause is older but used to drink a lot when was younger.
Gave up smoking though after we got married.

He says that all he needs in life to be happy is good food, a drink and a good woman.
Well, he certainly got the last one in me.
Not to be tooting my own horn here, but that's the truth.
He could probably find easily another one just as good, I don't doubt it.
Even though he has gained a lot of weight over the years, he still looks good, works out ( looks exactly like a Bull, too, at 6'3 and over 300 lbs ) and his personality just draws people to him. He gets along with people very easily, is very social and outgoing, has a lot of friends, always in a good mood and ready to have a good time, not a whiner.
And I am the perfect wifey who is at home most of the time ( or work during the day ), takes care of the house, kid, dogs. Sex life is not bad either. He will make sure that I am satisfied and IS always ready for sex.
Him being so big and overweight ( I am 5'5 and 135 lbs ) though makes it not so enjoyable for me. But he is all about enjoying life.
He is very stubborn, has a very short temper and gets angry easily. It gets old after a while. I give it right back to him and it's a hot mess :)
He says he is still in love with me and attracted to me, but I can't say the same.
He is a devoted husband, a good provider and very responsible and accountable though.
He can be lovey-dovey and romantic.
Like I said, 50/50 :)
Maybe some other woman would be a better match for him, I don't know. He is very jealous and possessive.
He will do pretty much anything for his family - just not what I ask for :)
Like I want to move, he doesn't. And never will :) Over his dead body :)
He can be very patient and hard-working and resilient though. When times get tough, he will not give up. Not once have I seen him broke down and give up.
He is a rock to stand by. But only when he chooses to, I know that. I am his second wife and he chose to divorce the first one.
I don't believe that he has been faithful to me, even though he claims he hasn't cheated. But considering how much time he spends aways from home, and how many people he interacts with, I would not be surprized. I just don't buy it. Can't prove it though.; April 9, 2013 at 4:13 PM
Anonymous said...: Hi MOA, I'm here to my TM story as well...I've been on/off with him for 8 years (this week infact) it never worked cuz of his hot/cold and dissapearing acts coupled with my dissapearing act (match made in heaven lol). Anyways, we always got back tigether casually or in a relationship. I broke up our casual relationship in Oct. because I wanted something more serious after being with him for so long. He said he couldn't deliver and so we parted ways. Late Dec. he contacted me after a couple of small talk since Oct. and said he wanted to make it work and for us to take it slow. Things went great, we talk almost every day and see each other when we can. Today, he sent me a text saying his phone would be off due to non payment and he'll contact me when it's turned back on. This is the second time it's happened (last time in Feb.) I don't know if I should be worried or if this is normal. Last time it happened, he contacted me 6 days later. I'm thinking maybe it's an excuse and he needs to sort his feelings out. Any thoughts?; April 17, 2013 at 1:20 AM